My wife and I love, respect, and value one another greatly, but we have had some marital problems. We saw a counselor recently who recommended that we try a role-reversal for 30 days by letting my wife lead the relationship, and I submit to her decisions. I trust my wife, but is it wrong for a wife to lead and for a husband to submit?
2006-06-07 18:15:06 · 13 answers · asked by chdoctor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a counselor, and your counselor's suggestion sounds "sound". Submitting might be a challenge..just as taking charge will also be a challenge for her. By taking on one another's roles you both get the opportunity to see where the other is coming from.
I don't think this is a question of right or wrong, but rather a question of whether or not you really want to submit.
2006-06-09 03:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all, people love to quote "Wives submit to your husband" but they leave out that the verse before that is "Submit to each other".
Some women have been beaten over the head with the phrase and it's just not healthy. In a relationship where the husband is the head of the family, doing it right means that the wife feels more loved, protected and honored than ever before.
If my husband said "JUMP!", I would jump. Why would I do that? Because a) I know my husband always has MY best interests in mind and b) He would never play games just to prove control...that's disrespectful. Other women wouldn't jump because they don't trust their spouse to have their best interests at heart or because they've been burned before.
We just finished a series at church called Extreme Marriage. Because who wants a Typical, Usual and Expected marriage?
You can listen to them here: www.journeybf.com - then double-click on messages and you can burn them to a CD or listen to them online. There's an intro, a wife part, a husband part and a wrap up. It's really great.
2006-06-08 12:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I seriously see nothing wrong with this at all. I don't think that there is anything wrong with a wife being a head of household.
What ever happened to husband and wife making decisions together. Trying to be equals? What's so wrong with your wife making decisions especially if you trust her.
I honestly believe that you both should be making decisions. That you should not be the main decision maker. You both are in your marriage together.
2006-06-08 01:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by MamaOfTwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be "wrong?" The counselor is most likely suggesting this type of role reversal so you can see what it is like to be your wife, and more likely than not, get a clearer idea of her complaints regarding the marriage or your handling of it. Sounds like a good idea to me. Maybe you can learn something to make your marriage better when the roles go back to what you are used to.
2006-06-08 03:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Randa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all this is the place of the husband! He is to be the head of the wife and the head of the home and love and cherish her and love her as he loves himself. You are to submit to each other and respect each other ... The Bible is clear on the roles of both the man and the wife. Are you talking to a Christian counselor?
2006-06-08 06:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sexual power exchange can be very, very hot if you're both into it. Doing this outside of the bedroom in my opinion will be the fastest route for her to start cheating on you.
In all likelihood, she already is - she picked the counselor, right? I'd suggest geting an attorney.
2006-06-08 01:45:38 · answer #6 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone is smart in their own ways, sometimes the wife is smarter than their husband, so it's okay for her to take the lead sometimes. thats nothing.
2006-06-08 01:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In what areas are you referring to
2006-06-08 01:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by hazel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my familes and extended familes the husband is the head of the household. its a patriarch. i dont think its wrong for the wife to be in control, its just really different. personally that wouldnt fly with me, im the man in control lol.
2006-06-08 01:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by imacman941 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Basically you're gonna hand over your balls to her her. Be a man, and quit sounding like a wimp. Submitting to her will show just how pathetic you are and then she will end up cheating on you with a "bad boy". Has happened to my friends many times.
2006-06-08 04:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋