She was once my best friend, but things went wrong, she started to spread crazy rumour about me to our other friends, like I chased some guy, I'm jealous of her and I had STD....She makes fun of me by setting me up with guys I obviously won't like...She will make a big deal about I accidentally step on her feet , .. I didn't mind the making fun of me part but once I learned about the rumours and get really upset confronted her and stop talking to her , so did my other friends.
After a year, I bump into her a few times and we said hello, and she acted all nice and called me a few times. I'm not used to turning away from people when they say hello, if you know what I mean
Now that she's getting married and invited me to her wedding, I wish her happiness and hope she has changed. But I don't feel like going to her wedding. Should I go ? what would you do?
2006-06-07 18:06:45 · 19 answers · asked by Tang Princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you truly wish her happiness leave it at that and don't go to the wedding. If you want leave a lasting impression show up with a hot date, a cheap gift, eat your free dinner and come up with one hell of a speech that will knock her off her seat.
2006-06-07 18:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by partygirl 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I do not believe that you should go. I have a firm policy on weddings: Weddings are to be attended by people who want to give the couple their blessing. Invitations should be sent to people whose blessing you want and who you know are not opposed to the wedding, not just because they are friends/relatives, esp. if they are opposed to the marriage or have been distant. Too many people send out invitations because they are soliciting for gifts. When you look at pictures from your wedding years from now, you should know the name of every person who attended and they should have had some intimate connection to you, be it loyal family or true friend. It doesn't seem that you two are true friends anymore, and unless you want to rekindle the friendship, I wouldn't go. Never attend a function out of pressure just for appearances sake if it means having to be a phony.
2006-06-07 18:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a big girl now and has to learn you can't treat people like crap and then act as though nothing has happened --- unless she has apologized - I'd pass on going to her wedding --- why not just send her a card and well wishes.... you sound like a classy person --- You have shown that you value a person's feelings --- hopefully, she will learn to do the same.....
2006-06-07 18:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, and wear something absolutely amazing! She'll hate the spotlight being off her- yeh, its a bit mean- but she enjoyed doing it to you. Sounds like she doesn'y have many friends- hence why she's inviting you. Buy her a tacky pressy, enjoy the dinner, wish her all the best. Then leave it in the past.
2006-06-08 00:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by wolfgang n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going might make her think that she has gotten away with everything she's done, and that it's okay. Don't get me wrong. Forgive her, that's what's right. But let her realize that she really did wrong, and she should apologize for it.
Greet her, sincerely wish her the best. GIve her a gift if you like (I don't think I would). But don't be obligated to go.
And when she finally apologizes, be ready and willing to accept it. So youcan both go on with your lives.
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2006-06-07 18:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by CaffeineLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am you ,I will go.Although you don't feel like going to her wedding,but I think if you go and wish her,sure she will appreciate you.Beside there has many food and may be you can know some friends there.All your best
2006-06-08 00:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Seo yun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way! i would not go. send her a card wishing her the best, but you still have hurt feelings, and i would tell her that you do not feel right about going and that you will need to trust her again before you spend time together. good luck and GOD BLESS.
2006-06-07 18:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by reann4239 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why go if your going to be uncomfortable ? she doesn't sound like a honest person to have spread back things about you, she sure doesn't sound like a friend. If you already don't feel like going, I think you've answered your own question.
2006-06-07 18:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were once friends. I'd say keep the friendship, and leave the past behind. Go, and remain friends!
2006-06-07 18:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Merlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't! I might send a SMALL gift to say that I wish her the happiness but I wouldn't go.
2006-06-07 18:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Carlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋