My husband never initiates sex. I am getting really tired of doing the initiation. He just says good night and goes upstairs. We sleep seperately because I suffer from sleep apena.
How would you handle this?
2006-06-07 18:03:21 · 11 answers · asked by moonspawnhotmailcom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girlfriend I know how your hubby feels.
I also stopped wooing my wife ( mainly cause it was more haslte then it was worth. ) and he is probably like me and tired of tring and geting shot down.
One of the biggest pet peeves for me was she would plan her life out and not plan me in it. between work, kids, her girls night out. her sports night, her scrappbooking night and her fun night. I was home alone with the kids 6 or 7 nights per week. Why would I get excited by a live in roomate.
Men have 5 basic (NEEDS) in a marrital relationship.
One of the KEY ( basic need of men is a recreational companion) seperate from Sexual partner ( this one is usualy number 1 or 2 ) but they both
but the simple fact is if any 1 or 2 of the (NEEDS) is missing he is not going to interested in sex afterwhile. Especially is it's you laying on your back and asking him to bang away.
Suggest you read His Needs, Her Needs, By Willard harley Jr ASAP
I also suggest The 5 Love Languages, By Chapman
It basically boils down to if your not leting him be KING why should he treat you like a QUEEN.
2006-06-07 18:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to be back in the same bed with him. This is not good to sleep seperately. Sleep apnea is no reason to sleep in seperate beds and if the noise from the machine bothers him he needs to buy some earplugs and sleep with them. Spice things up for him and buy some new things like candles and toys and try new posistions. Talk to your doctor too and you both may need to see a marriage counselor and maybe even a sex therapist!
2006-06-08 06:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about it. Alos try and seperate sex from sleeping - he maybe genuinly tired by the time he is going to be...
start initiating sex during the day..starting getting him to let you know if he is horney and just go for it then.
2006-06-08 09:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the adult store and buy a slutty outfit. Be all dolled up when he gets home from work and guaranteed his all yours for the rest of the night.
2006-06-08 01:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by partygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to counseling with him so you can discuss this openly and get help
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-08 01:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go! Give him the green light.
2006-06-08 01:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Merlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be romantic & create a romantic atmosphere at night & be near your husband.
2006-06-08 01:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by harry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got issues and a one-sided relationship then. talk with him or get counseling for that
2006-06-10 20:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and then maybe you two can work something out.
2006-06-08 01:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start screwing around openly.
2006-06-08 01:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋