I love him dearly. He says he wants to get married in the future when we are both better established, but I am ready now. I love him so much and we are practically together anytime we're not working. I'm 19 and am still in college and live with my parents. He is 27 and just got a new job, so he's having to start over again.
I just wanna know if you think it's too soon.
2006-06-07 17:25:34 · 27 answers · asked by Surruh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When he says 'better established', he means he wants enough money to be able to afford the finer things in life and take care of you. This is the only reason I would ask you to wait. When you have children, money is vital to their health, education, and care. If he needs to feel financially ready to marry, then you must wait, otherwise he will be bitter when you have children and cannot make ends meet. You need a solid post secondary education yourself. Don't marry until you are established. He's less emotional, and more of a thinker. If he says wait and says you're definitely the one, then wait, what is the difference between marriage and being together every day anyway? it's even better than marriage. If he says wait, and doesn't ever say you're the one, marriage is definite 'one day', then he just doesn't like being alone right now and has no problems spending time with you now, and you're not really "the one" for him in the future.
2006-06-07 17:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by FARIDA A 1 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, it really isn't up to us if it is too early. Marriage is something that you shouldn't go into lightly, and is a LOT of work, but if you are BOTH ready for it, then its a HELL YES... go for it. But if he'd like to wait, then its up to you... can you wait for him? Finding a guy worth having is a great blessing. Marriage is something that I think all us women eventually want, but sometimes can't wait till our partner is ready. I got married when I was 20 and my husband 25. We have had a great marriage... lots of learning about each other, and growing up as a couple and individually. Love really has gotten us thru a lot of hardships , and made us incredibly happy. Maybe you should try to move in together first? Just a thought. Anyways, hope this helped a bit.
2006-06-08 00:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by rabbit60048 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he answered this for you. He says in the future when you are established. I can't say that you are too young or not. Only you can answer that. It sounds like the man you are with isn't ready right now. Just enjoy the time you spend with him and focus on YOU! Being your own person will only make him respect and love you more.
2006-06-08 00:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by UCURGYPSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married at eighteen and we have been married for five years together for six and a half... it all depends on your level of maturity and if you can handle whatever problems life hands your way... I see nothing wrong with getting married at that age, but i do recommend that you wait until your finished with college before you start your life together if you do while you are still in college it may hurt you financially.
and for all of those who said yes... Im happily married, we have had some major issues but have come out with a stronger relationship, not all people who are married at a young age get divorced..or dont have a happy relationship...
2006-06-08 00:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is right in suggesting you two wait until you're both more well established. I know it's hard to wait, but if it's meant to be it will be. At least wait until you've graduated from college, because that means you will be ready to have a full time job to support yourself. Good luck.
2006-06-08 00:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when i got married, my advise is to wait. I do not regret my two beautiful kids (7 & 2) i just wish i would have waited. our marriage had been great but there was a time in my life when i wanted to go out and have fun with my friends but i was a wife and had a home and my family to take care of. After you pass that stage in your life then yes. And everyone goes through it.
Until then just have fun and enjoy your life.
2006-06-08 03:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nadia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 19 to a GREAT GUY who was 25. WE'RE perfect for each other. Ask your self, can i live w/out this guy? If the answer is no, marry him. If can live with out him, then he's not the right one. DONT MARRY HIM!!!
PS you already know deep down if you should marry him or not.
2006-06-08 01:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by bouffe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 21 and, looking back, I was too young. Now I am 26 with 2 kids and just now going to college...marriage can wait. Enjoy your youth!
2006-06-08 01:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by Aphton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is too soon. i married a 27 year old when i was 19. 14 years later he has left. i alwyas regretted leaving school and getting married. take your time you are young. finish school and find yourself first. if you were meant to be with this man than nothing is gonna get in the way with that. stay in school
2006-06-08 00:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by justducky2972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at18 and been married 4 yrs. and doing just find. Don't listen to people when they say you will change its your life whether you change or not i didn't and i just finished college so you can live your life the way you want. But if he's not ready dont rush into things. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-06-08 01:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by La Loca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋