I was looking forward to getting the divorce and getting it over with because the person I was married to was not a very nice person to me. Although I was excited and happy about the divorce, at the same time, I felt so very sad. It's been over a month now since the divorce, and I still get periods of sadness, and crying spells that come over me. I have no idea why that happens.......should I be sad, and is this the normal internal process that one goes through? Are women the only ones that go through that, or do men experience this as well? How long does it last? After one month of this, I just can't seem to feel overly motivated to meet anyone, etc. After divorce, how long should you wait before you date, or try to start dating? Divorce is not fun, and life can be lonely after, but, it sure is healthier than being in an unhappy marriage.
2006-06-07 17:24:33 · 5 answers · asked by Cloé 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's been two years for me and everyday it still hurts. I don't cry as much as I did before, but I still cry for the loss. After 30 years I felt like I had lost my right arm. So I think it is normal to feel what you are feeling. I think you really need to give yourself some time to be alone before you start seeing someone else. Get to know yourself again, instead of your "married self". I also think your right, after divorce you feel lonely and in doing so you may move too quickly and marry the wrong person, (as I did). Enjoy being single, have some fun with your friends and family. Go do all the things you weren't able to do when you were married. Try to heal the wounds from your unhappy marriage. When the time is right someone will come into your life. Good luck and bless you.
2006-06-07 18:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek help and counseling to help you get past the pain and suffering this divorce has caused in your life. IT is very sad indeed but you have to move on now. What you are feeling is normal and that is okay. You were married for 19 years so it is kinda like losing someone to death. There was death to your marriage so of course it will be very painful and sad for a while. You don't need to meet anyone until after you get help and start to heal and this will take time and lots of it... I would say at least 8 months to a year to even begin to heal. Do not date or look on the rebound.
2006-06-08 06:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you are going through is a process. As of this moment, you are right on schedule for what you went through. Each person is different and the "mourning" period varies. You won't be over in one night. It can take months and months. Allow yourself to feel all those feelings, it's the only way it's going to get better. And as for the rest (when to start dating)...let me know!
2006-06-08 00:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to have the sad days. Afterall that was 19 years of your life that ended up the way it did. Just move on and find happiness for the rest of your life.
2006-06-08 03:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been through a lot, like you said, a good thing and a bad thing. Give yourself time to heal, and don't be afraid to get some help from a counselor.
2006-06-08 10:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋