i called my wife fat, how do i make it up to her?

Answer 1

good luck buddy. that was almost as bad as cheating on her, especially if she has had weight issues in the past.

Answer 2

I think a lot of people here are missing the whole point in what you said. Whether it's true or not is NOT the point, nor should it be used as some form to try and make her thin.
You said something no man should say period, whether in anger or in just plain old conversation. One poster here suggested that a husband is supposed to be his wife's security blanket. I liked that! That means that no matter what, you should not betray a trust by using mean words.
Please take a look at yourself in the mirror. Are you really so perfect that you can throw such harsh words around?
*Sigh*, I am going to use an example of how she is probably feeling right now, using something that I see on here a lot. If you had(have) a small penis, and your wife, in anger, threw that at you, would a simple apology make you feel better, or would you always wonder in the back of your head if she was judging you instead of loving you? Well, this is how she is feeling right now!
I cannot even begin to tell you how to fix this. You got some horrible replies, please DON'T buy your wife FOOD to try and fix this! I would also not suggest this is the best time to sign her up for Jenny Craig or a gym. In fact, this is not going to be a good time to focus on her weight at all, so please disregard all those replies. Some sounded sarcastic, and some sounded like they really wanted to help, but are misguided. This is not about being honest with your wife, or fixing her weight problem. THis is about fixing a major emotional hurt, and no treadmill OR Big Mac is going to repair it. You really goofed. I pray she never throws your faults at you this way.

Answer 3

You can make it up to her by sleeping on the couch tonight. Okay, Okay...I'm kidding. REALLY though, if you do think she could shed a few pounds, let her know that you are just concerned about her health and maybe get into an exercise regime with her. BUT if you told her she was fat and didn't mean it: apologize and remember to try not to do it again because, of course, some women are sensitive towards that subject.

Good luck sir.

Answer 4

well you can start of by apologizing they say it goes a long way. but you never said if you called her fat often.and if that is the case then i don,t know what else to say. but i do know this fat is in and skinny is out,remember that they have men that would love to have you wife now i know you might not think so but what happens if she meets a guy that accepts her as she is without the name calling do you think she is going to still be married to you think about it,it has happen before

Answer 5

Is she really fat, or were you just giving her a hard time? In either case apologize. If she is truly fat, tell her that you love her regardless of the way she looks. It is also helpful to make fun of stick thin women (the anorexic crew of --Nicole Ritchie, Lara Flynn Boyle, etc.) and explain how you like a woman with curves. If she is not fat, tell her that you made it up to tease her, but did not mean it.

Answer 6

I don't think there is any way to make up for that.

Just let her know that regardless of what she looks like or how much she weighs you love her. It is because you love and respect her that you feel comfortable enough to give her your honest opinion. (Only use that last part if it's true that you think she's fat and if you didn't call her fat in an arguement, because otherwise it might seriously blow up in your face.)

Good luck

Answer 7

ooo did you make a mistake. You should say something to the effect that you like a few pounds or something so that she will not take it as a rejection. she already has but if you say things to make your statement a good thing, well as good as you can then you might have a chance. I would suggest saying those nice things over dinner at a REALLY nice place and maybe some flowers or better something SHE would really like and you know her better than we do, or do you? I would have never said that even if she weighed a ton.

Answer 8

Buy her a huge box of chocolates with a note

'I realize that I hurt you when I ran off at the mouth. Honestly I think it would be great if you lost weight, but since I said that to you I realized that I am in love and that is the most important, more important then the body. I am in love your heart, your mind, you soul. Your body is sexy, and if want to lose weight, that is up to you. If you decide to do that, that is up to you. Right now, just they way you are I love you and your body. Remember last time we were 'together' when.... I still feel that way. I am so lucky to have you. So eat up and enjoy these chocolates and with each one, know that I am deeply in love.'

Or something like that

Answer 9

While I usually advocate honesty as the best policy.

Your comment was pretty tasteless. chances are your not going to be forgiven for this one even if you grovveled for a couple months.

Comments like that really subtract from a persons (LOVE BANK)
Suggest you read The 5 Love Languages, By chapman ASAP
also suggest His Needs, her Needs, By harley Jr.

might help with marrital communication just a bit =)

God Bless

Answer 10

WOW! Well, the words are out. You can't take them back so dont try to. She is hurt. Let her know that you know you've hurt her. Say you're sorry, tell her you love her. Tell her how pretty every part of her body is to you (do it at random times during the weeks to come). And SERIOUSLY, buy her a diamond. If you can't afford a nice one. Get her a small one in a pendant. It's the only way.

Answer 11

I'm assuming she wasn't fat when you married her but she is fat now. That being the case, you told the truth and have nothing to make up for. It's her that should absorb what you said, albeit hurtful (but true) and lose some weight.