I'm married, friend recently married, we both have strong feelings for each other. What should I do?

Question

We have been keeping in contact over the years and always cared about how things were going in my life. I feel that the love is really real and if I hadn't married first we would've had a chance to be together.

Answer 1

I dont think you should have gotten married if u were 100% sure u wanted to be with this person for the rest of your life. As well as goes for the friend who has mutal feelings for you. Marrige is scared as well as the vows that you take before God, family and friends. Its not fair to the person you are marrying, if in the back of your mind you want to be with someone else. Just think if it was u who was devoted to ya significant other but they have feelings for someone else and is thinking about "well if I didnt get married..i would be with such and such"..I dont think its fair. Also I dont think u should stay married if u are unhappy and dont want to be there cause you are only making it worse for the both of you and that too just isnt fair. I dont think it would be best to act on any actions..especially since you are both married..i think maybe u should think maybe it really isnt meant to be...and u are just thinking it is b/c u want it to be!!

Answer 2

Seems like you are already cheating on your husband: emotionally. You should have cut this "friend" off long ago, for the sake of your marriage. You would essentially be cutting your husband's throat with your actions. And if this person is such a good friend and cares so much for you, he would have cut off from you too...cause what he is doing is as selfish as what you are doing.

But this is the year 2006. People cheat on their mates, abort their babies, and have no fear of God. Word of warning: you may reap that which you sow.

Then again, if you are fool enough to hurt your husband. And if this clown is fool enough to hurt his wife. Then you are both fools. And I think you may just deserve each other. Is it wrong? Hell yes. You asked. I answered.

Answer 3

But you did marry first--you have both made commitments. Stop flirting with disaster. Act like a couple of grown up people and Cut It Out!

Answer 4

Back off. This is a disaster waiting to happen. Spend more time with your husband. Look for how things are going in your husband's life and for what you can do with your husband. Lose the old friend for a while. Maybe for a year or so.

Answer 5

Ignore them. Do what you know is right. You are married and need to stay faithful to your husband/wife. The fact you are so attracted to this other man/woman sends up red flags that you marrage probably needs a tune up. Seek marrage counsiling, and try to work the kinks out of your marrage. Remember, "The heart is decietful above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it?" Jeremiah 17:9

Answer 6

You both need to control your emotions and concentrate on your marriages. If you can't be friends without feeling more for eachother then the clear answer is to stop communicating with eachother. Your spouses and your marriages need to come before anything else.

Answer 7

Hate to say it but too late now you shouldn't have gotten married if you weren't 100% sure I made that mistake and I am paying for it for the rest of my life.

Answer 8

I feel for you in your situation, but if you are both married, then there isn't anything you CAN do. You each have a commitment to someone else.

Answer 9

You should respect your marriage and your friends and remain friends.


Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 10

Tell your wife how f'ing stupid you are....and that
SHE is the one who made the mistake marrying you.