How to get my wife to have more than vanila sex?

Question

She likes sex in the bedroom, and no where else.
She like missionary, man behind or woman on top.
I fail to get her to have sex elsewhere or in other positions.

Answer 1

She may have some hang ups about sex and it being a little dirty. it's a very common problem for women. The best way to handle it is to bond with her emotionally. Men bond with women through sex and women bond with men through emotions. If you begin slowly incorporating some intimacy with your sex, you can push a bit more each time. What I mean by intimacy is the emotional side of things. Many people don't get that including the ones that answered your question. Intimacy is getting to know your partner, not just expecting them to "be there". You have to bond with her, talk with her about what things she likes specifically about your sex life. And when you listen, do those things and then say "that's great, I bet this would be great too". See, right now, she views all those other things (positions) as her just being merchandise and not a wife.

Answer 2

Try putting the ball in her court. If she feels in controll, she may be more comfortable with trying new things. There is a book called 1001 great nights of sex or something like that. I've also seen a deck of cards that was kinda similar, but the idea is she can browse through and find something she feels like she can do. there are all sorts of things ranging from milder fun to a bit more naughty, but it might give her a chance to start out by experimenting slowly and work up from there. If she has had any kind of sexual abuse in the past she may just need a lot of time to work through that, in which case alot of open communication is best. actually open communication is best all around.

Answer 3

Try spicing things up with her. Does sex hurt her or make her feel uncomfortable? Maybe you and her should go to a sex therapist! Do you make sure she climaxes before you enter her for intercourse? A woman has to be really wet to enjoy this and also use ky jelly as well. Buy her some toys or orgasm beads. Talk to her and let her know how you feel.

Answer 4

She might just be embarrassed about sex and/or doing it in unfamiliar places. For some people doing it in places that are new is exciting - for others it's scary and scary doesn't always equal being turned on. Talk to her about your wants and desires and tell her how much fun it will be to try new things. Take it slow and ease her out of the normal activities. For instance, if you want to try sex in a new place out of your home-try going camping, it's exotic, it's out of the house, but yet it's still private. Go slow, be patient, and just be honest with her =)

Answer 5

Set the mood, take it slow. Romantic lighting (candels) flower petals, front of the fireplace. Have you asked her why she is so hesitant, maybe she had a bad experiance in the past or how she was raised.

Don't rush her.

Answer 6

Yep, you should have sampled more of the merchandise before you made the purchase. Your best hope is to bargain with her...maybe there are things she'd like in return.

Answer 7

Talk about it. If you can't talk to her about sex and what turns each other on or what you are looking for you shouldn't be having sex.

Answer 8

Have you asked her or are you just hinting around? I thought of myself as inexpirenced when my husband and I got together. I still flat out ask him what he wants. Even after we do our thing, I'll ask him what he likes me to do the most and what he wants to try. Don't try to hint around, just flat out talk to each other.

Answer 9

You married the wrong girl dude.........

Answer 10

alcohol and porno,dude