should i have sex with my boyfriend if i really love him? we would use protection, and i am 13.?

Answer 1

no. as much as you feel like you might be ready for this kind of thing, you're not. at that age, its just plain better to wait. a lot of things that seem like a big deal, or a really important, or a good idea at this point in time are going to seem like total crap in a few years. and if you do this now, its pretty much 99% sure that you're gonna regret it later on.

Answer 2

I am telling you as someone who has been there done that, NO! I loved my boyfriend too. Now our son (we ALWAYS used protection) is 8 and you do not want to go there. A condom is not 100% safe so why risk it. Really weigh your options. Are you ready for a child? If you aren't then you should wait until you believe you are no matter how long that takes. Sex is a sacred thing even though I know right now it doesn't really seem like it. Take your time. It's not all it's cracked up to be and you will have plenty of time to get it on when you're older, regretting the things you did when you were younger!!!

Answer 3

I don't put it past a very mature 13 year old to be in love but you are very young and i bet money that next month you will be with a new boy feeling completely different feelings. Don't make such a step. there are so many worries to think about like STD's and pregnancy even with the use of protection. It is too risky in today's society. Just wait and enjoy being young you only get 1 childhood

Answer 4

OK I'm going to put this the best way i can. sweetie your 13 you have your whole life ahead of you, even if you love your boyfriend you don't really understand what sex is all about i still see 17 even 20 year old kids and they don't know what it really mean. yes its fun and yes it feels good, but i think you should wait and if he really love you too he will wait. don't give up something so precious at such a young age, you should be enjoying things like shopping, sports, classes, friends, movies, thinks like that not sex. I hope you make the right decision.

Answer 5

in my opinion u are too young to be thinking about sex. things could happen "protection" never is 100% affective. Are u ready to be a mother? Probably not u are too young. If u are going to have sex u need to be prepared for anything that could happen. Hang out, you could even kiss and make out or something but dont go all the way. When i was ur age (which was only 8 yrs ago) i didnt even think about sex. I waited til i was married and it was well worth it. Dont rush urself to grow up its not worth it.

Answer 6

At 13 you are so far from knowing what love is. Enjoy your youth. Birth Control is not 100% and raising a child when you are a teenager is no picnic. Sex does not make the relationship better. If you love each other then you can wait! Trust me, Men only love you until they get in your pants!

Answer 7

No. Not only will it expose you to the risk of STDs, pregnancy, and heartbreak, but you'll also have to tell future partners for the rest of your life that you were having sex when you were still in middle school. Very much not attractive for either gender. Here's a hint: if you're still young enough that Sweet Valley High is being marketed to you, you're too young to be having sex. Find some other way to pass the time.

Answer 8

It's not going to be what you think it's going to be. I was 14 and I had sex with my boyfriend whom I was inlove with or so I thought. And I wish I would have waited. Because it's much more complicated emotionally and physically. It's not like the movies, It is sometimes very painfull now I am 28 and married and wish everyday that I would have waited. I am not married to the guy that I had sex with. He dumped me right after we did it. and he said he loved me too... Be careful and think ahead. I know you care about him alot but if he honestly loves you he will wait until you are ready.But don't beleive it when he says If you love me you will do it . 90% of the time he just wants to have sex and that is it really . Sex is not love , remember that.Pray about it.

Answer 9

I think if your asking then you are unsure - and if you are unsure then you really shouldn't.

Honestly I think you are too young. But I am sure you've heard that over and over.

Even with a condom there is still a risk of getting pregnant. The condom could break or he could wear it wrong. Do you really want to deal with that if that occurs?

Do you love your boyfriend? Do you trust him 100%? Is he a virgin? If not then he could transmit diseases to you. Do you really want to live the rest of your life with Herpes if that occurs? a lot of people with herpes and other STDS do not tell their partners.

I really think you should wait until you are older.

You don't want to hear it but your still a kid. You just became a teenager!

You don't have that many worries right now, so just be a kid and don't rush too fast to grow up. It's not as great as it appears to be - growing up that is.

I waited until I was 19. You might feel like you are the only virgin your age - but your not.

Answer 10

I think that 13 is too young to be having sex. It has nothing to do with love when you're that age. Believe me! I'm not just trying to preach at you - it wasn't that long ago that I was 13. I strongly suggest that you wait. If you really love your boyfriend and he loves you, then it will be worth it.

Don't forget - no birth control is 100% effective... especially when you are both inexperienced.

Answer 11

Before you have sex with your boyfriend you should consider talking about it with either your parents, a school counselor, or a trusted adult. Having sex has consequences, regardless of your age, and you should make sure that you are prepared to deal with those before you jump into it. If it is difficult to talk to your parents about it (I understand ~ I think it would be hard to talk to my parents about it too!) then at least talk to a trusted adult.
And remember ~ accidents happen and you could still get pregnant even if you use protection. I am not trying to scare you or sound overly dramatic...but the truth of the matter is that women are the ones forced to make difficult decisions or sacrifices if you they get pregnant ~ and a lot of times the men don't stick around (especially if they are teens).