2006-06-07 15:09:56 · 16 answers · asked by mae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it will depend on the two of you, i have been there and done that. my marriage is everything to me. He had been involved with another women( not sexually) I talked to her thats how I knew.I did not think we would ever make it through this, but we have. Its been almost 3 years. I still think of the fling, and its does still hurt but the good has over took the bad. We do love each other very much. If it ever happens again he will be out the door, but I wasn't ready to give up on my marriage. Best of luck what ever you decide.
2006-06-07 15:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately no. When a spouse finds out that their partner has cheated, they have broken the trust bond that two people share. Once that happens there is no getting the trust back. If you are the one that has been cheated on, it always will linger in the back of your mind, will it happen again. If they are late coming home you will start to wonder. No one should have to live like that. My advice is to kick him to the curb and move on. Find someone who will love you and only you.
2006-06-07 15:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely you wont ever trust him again. When he cheated on you and you caught him the trust factor was completely thrown out the window. Now whenever he does anything on his own or whatever, you're going to think he's out cheating on you and you're more than likely going to hold a grudge over his head too!
2006-06-07 15:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you won't you will always think about it. You will picture it every time you hear the word cheat, affair, and mistress, etc. You have heard so many people say once a cheater always a cheater...If he does something suspicious you will think he is doing it again. If a beautiful woman walks by you will look to see how he is looking at her. And you will always ask yourself, is he sorry cause he is or because he got caught. I had a boyfriend that cheated on me and I asked myself the same question....I'm now happily married to someone else.
2006-06-07 15:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you will hun... Forgiveness is a progress... It starts with saying I forgive you and it takes time for the wounds in your heart to heal. It took you a while when you met him to trust him as you got to know him... he kind of had to prove himself to you. Now he needs to do that again. Having that little nagging feeling in the back of your mind is ok... but becareful not to throw it up in his face all the time. I mean he knows what he did and I bet he's having trouble trusting himself. Time really does heal all wounds. Love him first and the rest will come. You may want to consider marriage counselling ( i know it sounds cliche) these are people who know where you are and know how to help you get to where you want to be. You can do this through a clinic type place or through your church (i would recommend your church first).
Best way.. is trust God... This takes strength and peace that He will give you ( I know i've been there) He know's what you're going through and what your hubby is... and forgiveness comes through Him he teaches us how to forgive and gives us the means to do so. May He bless you both and heal your hearts so that you may have many happy years together. You're in my prayers.
Oh and Once a cheater always a cheater is a bunch of bunk ;) just so ya know :D No one is perfect all of us screw up in some way and we all can learn from our mistakes...
2006-06-07 15:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jembee1720 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impt issue, is he ever remorse about it..Abt cheating, how in dept did he cheat, a 1 nite stand over drink? Sleeping with ur sister..If u reali love him, n he is sorry, he deserve a second chance..
or stay away from him sometimes, a time to think n cool dwn to reflect. If anger overpower luv, u wont be able to trust a man like him ever again.
2006-06-07 15:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by HappYGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. U cant because u will always think that hes out there doing something behind your back and most of the time he will be if hes already done it once. Being with him after he cheated on you is pretty much telling him its okay for him to do it again. Your the only one hurting.... leave his dum ***!
2006-06-07 19:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Janelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the immature among us are fond of saying "once a cheat, always a cheat". blanket statements like this are wrong, they deny everyone's potential for redemption, and they are usually a sign of having nothing insightful to add.
renewing trust is going to mostly be up to him. he needs to talk the talk and walk the walk. your lives have changed irretrievably. but that might not be all bad. cheating has it's roots in a flawed relationship, and it is possible to use the incident as a learning/healing opportunity for both of you. cheating is always wrong, but good can come from it.
get therapy!!
2006-06-07 15:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be very hard to trust him again but it has happened. You have to go to counselling and remember if you have to work hard at this he has to work 100 times harder cause he's the one who caused this mess.
The question is do you want to give it another try or not? It's up to you and either way you the right to do what you want and think of only yourself (after he went and thought of only himself.)
Good Luck!
2006-06-07 15:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never trust him again and it will just keep eating away at you until it makes you miserable. it will always be in the back of your mind and deep down somewhere you will never be able to fully forgive him. he doesn't love you if he would do this to you, and he will most likely do it again. get out now and file under adultery. it will make both of your lives easier and happier in the end.
2006-06-07 15:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋