My husband quit smoking 5 years ago when we were dating. In March he started again. He's promised me a thousand times he going to quit but I see no effort on his part. I worry about his health, I hate the way he smells when he comes in. We have 2 young kids who need a father, and after losing 2 grandparents to lung cancer I'm scared. He blames me for his smoking which is bullsh*t. I stress him out, I didn't cook him breakfast so he couldn't wear his patch, his smoking is none of my business. I didn't marry a smoker, so why should I be stuck with him now? I feel he loves his cigarettes more than me and the kids. Is this wrong of me?
2006-06-07 15:01:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is his choice to buy cigarettes, light up and smoke them. No one is holding a gun to his head and forcing him to do this. He keeps that smoking up and it will be the death of him yet. He is not immune to lung cancer or emphysema, these diseases are not prejudice. He has his top priorites all wrong and he needs to decide what's more important...his smoking or his own health and his family.
2006-06-07 15:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation - reversed. I was a smoker when I met my ex-husband, but Iater I quit for 3 years. Then I started again and I still smoke. My husband didn't like it of course but he accepted it. He made some rules though, I could only smoke in the kitchen, and that worked out ok. Smoking is an addiction, but I understand why you're scared. Just remember that most smokers don't get lung cancer or emphysemia - it's just that those who do get it are almost always smokers. I think that nagging him about it only makes it worse. Agree on some rules as to where he can smoke, try to compromise. Of course it's ridiculous that he blames you for his smoking!
2006-06-07 22:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cigarettes are an addiction that NEVER goes away. Try to be understanding. It sounds as if he's let himself go a bit now that you two are settled. If you've done the same (putting on weight), you have no place to complain. I'd suggest trying to help him quit or make him smoke outside. Nagging him and bothering him will only make him smoke more.
2006-06-07 22:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to be a smoker, i was up to a pack and 1/2 a day and my fiancee hated it.. So he told me that if i didn't quit he would leave me... so i quit, haven't smoked since... don't know if that helps, but it's how my now husband dealt with the problem..
2006-06-07 22:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you pressure him, the less likely he is to quit. Calmly tell him you are concerned for his health and give the reasons why (make it short - guys have a short attention span) and tell him you would like for him to quit. Then let it go at that. He's a big boy and will make his own decision when it comes to that.
2006-06-07 22:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him time! I quit 2 years ago and still have HUGE cravings
I have quit for up to a year before this time too!! It is tough!!!
2006-06-07 22:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its actually very easy...jus go to IRELAND....cose u are not aloud to smoke in public areas...like toilet, bar...and all sort of places except ur own house...which is less possibility u will smoke there
2006-06-07 22:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from your screen name i'd guess this is just one of many issues. off to therapy with the both of you!
2006-06-07 23:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you and me have something in common eept i can't have kids.
2006-06-07 22:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by wolfelady692003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋