i recently turned 31, and i have no real friends. i had some, but they're very immature, and still into lying, back-stabbing, and game playing, etc, etc, etc. i have never been into doing any of that and am done trying to keep friends who do. we r now no longer speaking because of it, and i need to make some new friends who can be real, and as honest with me as i am! someone who i can call or who can call me whnever just to chat and can be there for each other. i realize that a really good friendship takes time to build, i'm just looking to start building! my only requirement is that u be HONEST!!!!! that is a huge issue with me right now. i do have one friend from grade school, and we chat to catch up from time to time, but she is extremely busy with a husband and 4 young children. i live in st louis, missouri, and am open to any responses! like i said, i only ask that u be honest! any thoughts on what i can do? or is there anyone who might wanna chat?
2006-06-07 14:07:43 · 6 answers · asked by Lisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
my e-mail address is lisaann75@sbcglobal.net any response is greatly appreciated! i am starting completely over from scratch here!
2006-06-07 14:09:26 · update #1
You're really brave--it takes a lot of courage to walk away from people who are basically toxic.So the first thing I would do is to stop worrying about sounding desperate. Instead, think of your situation as pretty much the same as someone who's just moved into your city and needs to make friends--you've given yourself a fresh start, make the most of it!
Below is the link to craigslist for your city--check the entries for "community"--there are lots of events you can go to on your own and hopefully meet people who share the same interests or expose you to new ones. There should also be listings in your local newspaper or alternative weekly. Sign up for activities that you've never tried before, volunteer, go to gallery art openings, wine tastings or free talks at the museums and university. Join bulletin boards and groups based on your new interests....before long you should be worried about how to find enough hours in your day to fit in all your new friends and interests!
2006-06-07 15:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by shukuken 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have made the right steps, and are reaching out to others. I'm sure you are not alone, in hating all those head games that so many play these days.
You didn't say what town or State you live it, but this holds true for most places. You need to meet down to earth, solid, honest people, I would suggest, a volunteer group, like the Red Cross, or some such organization. These are decent people who care about others. That gives you a good starting off point.
Take some night classes, it's amazing how close you can get to people, when you share something in common. Over the weeks of the course, they get to know you and you them.
So do some checking around, I know if you try, you will find what you are seeking.
Good Luck.
If you need a pen pal, let me know.
2006-06-07 21:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by johnb693 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try the grocery store or try joining a club of some sort im sure you casn start some good friendships there...
2006-06-07 21:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that u should try harder to make friend instead of waiting for people to come to u.
2006-06-07 21:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right that does sound desperate
2006-06-07 21:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by isabelle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi i'm profit
2006-06-07 21:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Profit 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋