Here’s the story. My wife and I (I am a 26 year old male) moved to a foreign country for a year. She got a job as a teacher. We met allot of interesting, free spirited people while we were there. I had to go back to the states a few months early to get us set up with a job and apartment. I get a call from her today and she tells me they had a crazy drunken party last night, but I detected in her voice that she had something to tell me and that I might not be happy about what I hear. She tells me people started getting naked 3 guys 3 girls (including her). Anyway, she made out with 2 girls (first time in her life). She has told me in the past she was not interested in girls. She spent most of the day stressing out over what happened and how I would respond. My ? is....should I consider this cheating? Should I be angry? Should I be stoked? I’m just a little confused...let me know what you think. Oh by the way I would never hook up with a guy so it’s hard for me to understand.
2006-06-07 13:57:14 · 7 answers · asked by JBgotaquestion? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, if you have to asked, "should I be angry," then the answer is NO. You are either angry or you are not. So that is question and answer one.
Cheating? Well of course it is, but if it doesn't matter to you, then all is ok...let it go (it is ok with you, because you had to ask, "should I be angry?"
What has her getting it on with two girls have to do with you getting it on with a man???? Sort of twisted logic there. WHo knows, maybe this will open the door to some wild times for you when she gets home. Don't be judgemental..things will work out one way or another. Relax, there is time enough to get things 'straight' when she gets here.
2006-06-07 14:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say what I would do. If I really loved my spouse, I would try to remember they were not on there right mind, and I would make sure I never leave my spouse in a position like that.How do you really know what you would do if positions were different? I know I would feel the same as you. You need to talk, be open, and let her know you still love her, if you do, I think you do, or you wouldn't be asking. Good Luck!
2006-06-07 21:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by mybudnoobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go...tell her i only hope you enjoyed yourself....
no reason to get angry, it's done.....if you love her than continue to love her...i'm sure somewhere along the path of life you'll F-up somewhere...and perhaps one day you'll have a nice surprise waiting for you in the bedroom. don't push for that either...might come off wrong like you need someone else...just let life happen and cherish every bump along the way
2006-06-07 21:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by m37734 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The original reason why women should not cheat is because they might not know who their child's father is.
Tell her if she wants to get with girls again she should share them with you next time.
She can get them warmed up for you.
2006-06-09 19:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Eric Inri 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would say it's cheating. Just because she was drunk or it was with women is no excuse.
2006-06-08 18:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by chazzaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you think that there was three guys and three girls and she made out with just two women, hello
2006-06-07 21:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh. if you were there, it would be kool. dont be angry though, she was drunk.
2006-06-07 21:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by guessgizmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋