Do you feel you deserve more out of life ??

Question

I am in my forties and feel i have under achieved.I have a loving family but don't feel as though i have reached my full potential but have never really known what is the correct path to take.I am surrounded by succesful people which makes life so difficult at times.I know i am basically a good person but i suffer from envy !
I work for myself as a handy man and find myself in some beautiful homes with beautiful gardens and wish i could give my family the same but never seem to know how to get there !

Answer 1

I believe this is a natural feeling most people have. Wanting to be better than they are presently and wanting more than they now have. It is how we grow in all areas of our lives. I used to have those same thoughts and feelings, but when I took a closer look, I realized all the responsibilities one takes on with increasing success and wealth. Would I have the emotional, physical, mental strength and fortitude to carry that burden? To take care of all those "things"? No, I do not. But for some unknown reason my family thinks the world of me, as I do them. I look back at my family history and find I have it better than my folks did, so I am an improvement.

Keep the love of your family, be with them, nurture them, because by you supporting them emotionally, you can be a stepping-stone for their success. Everyone has to deal with envy at one time or another in life. Always take the path filled with love and caring.

Sounds like you do an honest days work for an honest days pay.
We need more people on this planet like you.

Answer 2

I know the feeling...been there done that...at 39 thought I would make the best out of my life and finally get married...years later, not sure if I ever should have done what I did. I've learned over the years (and yes I have been envious) but I have learned life is all what you make it. I have learned to accept where I am in life and have made the best of it in my own way. I am finally happy. From your question, doing construction, you're the creator of your own destiny...think of it on at least an acre of land....a mobile home..and build off the existing structure. That is the beautiful home (not a mansion), I have come to love and adore, a 2 bedroom, sunk in living room, spacious kitchen, downstairs rec room which has become a museum of my collectibles including 6 person hot tub, and a shop room my husband has been very creative in. The yard is awesome with a little TLC, great landscape, pavilion, and a garden that feeds us throughout the year. By the way did I tell you we live paycheck by paycheck. It's all possible...quit being envious and be intuitive and creative...may not be a big ole home but a paradise we are happy in and enjoy...Wish you the best and Good luck. By the way we live in the rural areas.....but also have city friends who have done the same.

Answer 3

Deserve??? Why would you think you "deserve" anything just because you are living? I bet most of those people that live in those big house got them by paying people minimum wage work in their business. I also have found that most people that own their own business usual are perfectionist and cannot stand other people that are less then perfect. Such a person I think will never be happy with what they have achieved in life. If you have a family that is healthy and you make enough being a handy man to provide a safe and adequate home, who cares if it is not fabulous? Do you really think that you would be happy if your house is bigger. Be so happy you have a family, no one is sick. Possessions do not make one happy. I hope somehow you can stop being envy of what others have. Believe me they have paid for it, by selling their souls or by stepping on people, or have sacrificed their family by becoming workaholics. Count your blessings, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence.

Answer 4

The most important thing is not that your family has a home, not the size of it. I bet a guy like you is putting them in the safest place you can get them. That is good... great actually. I am doing the same thing. I am not close to my potential but sure, I am underachieving and not happy with everything. But are you happy? When you wake up, are you proud that you are a handyman? Is there anything you can do to make a career change now? Well don't worry about it. Just the fact that you care means your intentions are well. Hey, those people with the big houses, sure they are nice, sure we all want one, but some people have them and some don't. It's ok man... I am in the position I am in because I made some bad financial choices, I won't make the same mistakes again, but I have to deal with the choices I made. Just try to do it with a smile on your face.

Answer 5

YES, no matter what other people say, you do deserve more, it's asad fact of life that some people are born with more available to them, but that doesn't make them anymore better thn you, that's a fact, just lookat celebrities, especially paris hilton or brad pitt, there sad and so into what THEY want and don't care about hurting other people, just what they want. Have you ever thought about why you don't have a s much as others, like the verse in the bible says, if you beleive the bible, it's easeir for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than a rich person to enter heaven, just be grateful, your time will come.

Answer 6

Jealousy is a natural feeling ... no shame there. It does sound, however, like you have it in check and only want to better yourself for the benefit of your family. I can relate to that.

However, we don't DESERVE anything in life. We only get out of it what we put it ... sometimes even less. In other words it's partially about earning something, and partially about luck (being born into a rich family helps). Good business sense or intuition also aids the cause.

Like you, I am turning forty, and considering a lifestyle change for the wellbeing of my kids ... but we would move, change careers and start over in a less expensive area.

Being envious just makes you difficult to be around. But, I feel for ya, bud. Good luck.

Answer 7

I feel like I definitely deserve more out of life. I try hard and do my best at everything but things always seem to get worse. It's like there can't be a moment where my life goes just right or good, something always has to screw up. I'm a good person and I don't do anything wrong but everytime I turn around something just has to happen to me. Trust me, I turned a lot.

Answer 8

I am 63 years old and have done more things in my life than most people could do in three lifetimes. But the single greatest thing I've ever done was marry someone who shared my love of children ( she had three when I met her, then we had two more ). Our children are grown now and very good people, moderately successful, and most with children of their own. We now have eight grandchildren ( and one more on the way ). My grandchildren are being raised to be smart and inquisitive and good people. The impact of this family of mine will be felt for many, many years. That's my gift to the world.

I suggest you try to look at things much the same way.

It's not how much money we give them, or what we buy for them that makes a difference in their lives, it's how much we love them, how much time we spend with them, how much encouragement we give them, and how much of what we have learned we pass on to them.

Answer 9

this is hard!!

just some of us have no luck -- im in the same position sort-of..

i lost my daughter and gf of 7 years 2 some1 who had nice house!

struggle along working *** off & watch some lazy office bod take home 10times more money!!

Nice!!


I used 2 fit sky until i realised they were getting away with paying £3.20 an hour

now looking to work in london doing a less enjoyable although easier job - less hours for 4 times more money!!

Answer 10

there's a lot more to life than beautiful homes, i've seen beautiful homes with unloving parents that have screwed up relationships with their kids... there isn't anythin to subsidise a family and good bonds... as corny as it sounds, that's where richness is.. in having a healthy family... in a healthy family you have limitless love but if you look for wealth, and materal objects, there are no limits, nor a satisfactory margin...

personally if you think like this, you probably have already achieved enough for your family... go give them what you can, prove that happiness to yourself and no other.