my son is somewhat special....an average student,moves in a slow manner because of weak bones....because of this, his classmates tease him and bully him whenever they have the chance...now, school has opened and he does not want to go to school anymore.....no matter how i convince him, he will not go to school....what shall I do? my son is 8 years old.....help me please.....
2006-06-07 13:52:33 · 7 answers · asked by english major 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Get the school's support. Go up to the school and talk to the principal, teachers and ask for help. If they are not willing to help consider taking him to another school. The school has a responsibility to make the boy feel safe and welcome there.
2006-06-07 13:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by auberincat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the teacher before school starts so he's/she's aware of the problem. Sometimes we just don't see it going on. We're dealing with 20 different personalities, all asking 20 different versions of the same questions. My classroom has always been bully-free, but I'm not in the boys' bathroom or at their tables at lunch. It happens during those non-instruction times.
I had a student with autism in my class this year, and I couldn't have been more pleased with the way my students accepted him and helped him. He's developed SO MUCH socially this year. I read a book to the class when he wasn't in the room to talk about autism. You might ask the school's counselor for similar books for any other sorts of "differences" children target in school. I'm sure the teacher would be willing to share it with the class. Sometimes if the students are told WHY someone else is different and that it's okay to be different, they'll be cool about it & accepting.
If he keeps on staying home from school (he doesn't have a choice- YOU'RE the one making that decision), he'll never face his fear. He's going to have to toughen up, and hopefully the other students will soften up.
2006-06-08 12:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definatley talk to his teachers or principal. My son is an outstanding student. He recently got a new kid in his class and this kid has alot of issues. He started bullying mine. He would cry. (My son doesn't have an aggressive bone in his body. He's pretty easy going.) He didn't want to go to school. He's buddy's with all his classmates. He's never had to deal with a bully. The teacher caught him once and talked with the parents of the bully. Well it never stopped completely but it has gotten better. The bully just found others to do this to but the teacher keeps a good eye on him now. She reports to his parents and they temporarily set him straight. The boy was alot of talk. One of the other students acually calls his bluff and he backs down so now my son acually laughs at him now. This has raised his confidence alot. To see that he is just a bluff. He also talks back to him. The teachers have heard my son mouthing him off and have turned their backs (his teacher told me). Sometimes you just have to call their bluff and let the chips fall where they may. I'm not incouraging violence but some kids just have to learn the hard way.
2006-06-07 14:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by wishorstish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get very angry that children do these kind of things to other childern only because they are different. I hope that they arent hurting him physically. Personally I would go to school officials ( principle, teacher)
I found an article from "Reader's Digest" that gave an anwer about a boy who was also being bullied in school. This boy was much older, but maybe it will give you some ideas on what to do.
I hope you find a solution to your situation soon!
Tell your son to keep his chin up!
2006-06-07 13:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by kimberleibenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the principal, Superintendant, schoolboard and a lawyer if you have to. our schools have a 0 tolerance policy this is suposed to mean your child is safe from bullying now teasing on the other hand you need to build self confidence in him remember sticks and stones. with my children i tell them the God of all creation took time to make and die for you what do you care what some little kid not much older than you thinks if God Himself loves you.
2006-06-14 06:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by raynman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schools are supposed to be bully free zones. They are in Chicago. You can get in big trouble although it still goes on. Need to speak with the principal and higher up authorities. Not the teacher. She or he can't do anything.
2006-06-07 13:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might be bad advice... and i don't want to advocate violence... but i would seriously train him to fight - martial arts, boxing, kickboxing, whatever. life isn't fair, people are idiots. He's gotta grow a "thick skin" and be able to defend himself, or better yet, beat up those bullies in front of everybody... i'm sure the teachers would secretly love to see that.
2006-06-07 14:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by winston 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋