My husband and I have not lived together in 2 years. He said he would move with us but that was 2 yrs ago. He has been fighting over small things and I have found used lipstick and perfume that I don;t use in his car, I have found sexual items that we have no use for and he has been taking male enhancement vitamins that he says are for his prostrate. I have also found where he had been talking to a co-worker (Young,Cute, and single) He erased her calls off the caller id and they both had different stories why they were talking. When I ask him if he is cheating he says that it makes wonder about me. We have 2 children together that he doesn't pay any money to help out with and he says that it isn't his place because I was the one who choose to move. He tells me he can't move here because there isn't anything her for him. He says he can't move here because the man is to be the leader of the house & it would be me being leader of house if he moved here becasue it was not his choice.
2006-06-07 13:48:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Smell the jasmine?? Girl wake up an smell the coffee! Get outta there an grab a new life, What ya waiting for? You don't need this right? Go for it! Good luck!
2006-06-07 13:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is seeing someone else. And he is playing mind games with you too. My advice is that if can't he adult enough to tell you that he is seeing someone else, than he lacks integrity. If he lacks integrity, especially toward his wife, then he lacks probably the most important characteristic that a husband (and a wife) should have in a marriage. Integrity not love) is the foundation of a marriage and unfortunately yours is cracked and needs replacement: either seek outside intervention or consider whether or not this gentleman is marriage material. Unless he willingly wants to change, it will only get worst.
2006-06-07 20:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Aurora Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious he is cheatring or not in love with you anymore. If he really loved oyu he would stop making SILLy excuses as to why he can;t live with you. PLus he can get more women if he is married. Girls seem to be attracted to married men for some gross reason. I would re read your post and it says it all. You are smart and know you don;t need this. Give him exactly what he needs and wants A divorce
2006-06-07 20:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your separated divorce hes not supporting you is he and if you take his money he will have to settle down with someone clip his wings hes not a mature man and not a role model for children if hes out of the house dont be deluded drop him and limit contact with this a$$ if your still sucking up to this loser you dont have time to find a real man to love you and only you angd not the entire work force and hey sink his boat at work if you can prove hes meeting another employee outsude maybe thell can them both for the fratranizing on company time get a real detective to follow him for a couple of days and get photos to prove to court hes a mess then lower the boom
2006-06-07 20:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuses Excuses!!! If he at all loved you or even cared aboutyou, he would be where he needs to be and that is with his family. Nothing will change his mind. He will continue doing what he is doing. He is turning things around on you because he has a guilty conscious. He answers your question with a question... not a good sign. Grant you, one day he willwake up and see what he has missed. What he has gave up. And none of it is your fault! Hang in there... you deserve better.
2006-06-07 20:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by ncbutterfly_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your husband is cheating on you too. Time to move on...he doesn't even help support your kids. The last thing you need is a loser and a cheater, especially one who doesn't even want to see that his kids are well taken care of. I would put an end to this story!! Best Wishes!!
2006-06-07 20:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Know he is Cheating and You Know things won't get any better, because, he doesn't want them to... You are the Only One who can decide just what to do... Only You have these answers
The first thing Always declare child support The children come first ...
2006-06-07 20:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by stessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are already divorced. He has obviously moved on and maybe you should just let go and move on too. It will be hard but in the end it will be so much better for you and your children.
2006-06-07 21:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Tere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheat alright! Turning it around is a sure fire way for him to try and put the blame on you.Have you checked his phone,internet connections ie the history button on your toolbar,does he wear fake tan,new aftershave,always having to go somewhere at short notice,checked his bills(credit card).Personally he's lying to you.Find someone who will really love you with all of their heart and give you the love and respect that you should have.No-one should be treated that way....
2006-06-07 20:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is definitely CHEATING! He has no intentions of moving there with you and YOUR children. Move on and divorce him now. It will hurt but so is the situation you are in now. Best of luck to you honey.
2006-06-07 20:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋