i am going insane....?

Question

i luv my bf so much but he never understand the lovei have fr him. it all began yesterday when i went to the shopping mall with my family, i missed my bf a lot. I messaged him tht "wud he take care of me " and i told him "tht i miss him so much and i want to be with him". My bf called me up and shouted at me , calling me asshole and idiot coz he thought i doubted him, tht he can't take care of me and kept shouting as to why i asked tht question., I kept telling him tht i just innocently asked him coz i luv to be pampered and i never took him differently.But he was so stubborn and told me why i mesaged him. Our r/ship now has been going for 2 years and i'm very scared of him, in the sense, when he calls, i must pick up the phone, if now he'd link me that i'm having other men in my life.Please dont tell me to dump him coz i've tried and i can't survivie even a day without hearing from him. Last night i got into seizure (fitz) coz i cudn't take the way he said i never really loved him.

I feel my whole life shattered now coz he's not calling me.I feel so horrible.If i wanted i cud have left him but i love him so much and i dont know why he's taking me wrong.doesnt girls sumtimes ask their bf, "wud u be there for me, how much do u love me, etc"?When a girl askes all this does this man she doesnt trust her guy?It;s just tht we want to hear and feel the love and for that i got nicely condemned and torn by him.WHy is he doing this to me?In what way hav i not done my duty well as a gf?Am i in the wrong?I'mm going insane.I even attepmted to call the local mental hosp to get admitted but i was thinking abt my family. My family doesnt know my silent cry in pain and i dont want them to know coz my parents are elderly. I just want my bf and i want him to love me.

Answer 1

I didn't finish reading after you said he called you an *******. Any man who calls his woman that isn't worth the time of day.

Please get some mental help so you can get on with your life.

Answer 2

I had a relationship like this.. it was w/a very controlling man. He was always berating me for stuff and THEN turned kinda violent.. throwing lamps, busting 'doors' to 'show me a thing or two.' and that kinda ****, You need to get OUT, honey! You are totally insecure and he's picked up on that and has got YOU totally l00% brainwashed, baby! You are crying out for help here (and damn, I hope someone else can tell you this better than I or convince you..) Do you have anyone (girl, boy..)friend .. because you need someone else around to 'back you.' (Where are the folks?) I'm guessing you are a teen, or maybe early 20's, right? Out of the home maybe? I am in love with 'being in love' I sometimes think.. (it' sux.) I'm trying to get over this fat-assed, bald guy (who I find out is married) making ME feel like I did some **** wrong.. (hell, he did it.. did it all!) He admits he's power hungry. (I oughta tell his wife what a piece of womanizing **** he is but I don't wanna hurt the woman more than she must've been hurt already by this piece of ****.) Guys!> (They're 'little boys' really.. a real man doesn't need to control anyone.. right? right!) He sounds jealous so be careful!? K!.. thinkin' of ya, honey.. melancholia

Answer 3

You need to pull youself togeather and move on because your just going to get hurt more than what you already are. I know you didn't want that type of answer but I've seen one of my friends act the same way to his wife and I've seen the bruises he's left on her and their children are the ones that really suffer. Trust me it's for the better, you sound like a better person and my step daugter went through a simular situation and if I would have found her boyfriend that night before the cops he would have been dead. I don't live with my wife and step kids anymore but from the past I can assure you you will be getting abused, I've seen to many situations like this happen, their are plenty of single guys out their probably looking for a great caring girl like you. My daughter and boyfriend tried counseling and that didn't work neither this is why I suggest you move on. good luck and your to good for this wake up and smell the coffee

Answer 4

you must be young but if you are scared of him then i think u know what to do. Its only gonna get worse from here and hes probably mad cuz he cant support u! And u can survive without him it will just take time to get over him. Find a hobbieor a new man to play with. It sounds like in a few years hes gonna be kicking you ***

Answer 5

first thing is to sooo calm down
just breathe for a while
he probably just needs some space
spend time with some other friends for a while
if you're scared then maybe things arent going as well as you think and maybe you should rethink going out with him
try to get used to not being with him as much and maybe things will get better
just don't panic because that probably won't help
sit down and explain things to him maybe or just let him know how you feel in a serious way

Answer 6

It's weird. When you question a man about his abilty to take care of you, it insults his ego. Because men feel they're born protectors and when you question that, they feel like you're insulting them. You should say you're sorry, that you know he would always take care of you. After that just give him some time to take that in and I'm sure things will be just fine. Hope this helps

Answer 7

thats sad... tell him youre getting the idea that hes not getting the point about how much you love him. if he goes on like "but you were not there 4 me" "why didnt you come/ call back. if he sez that, tell him you had to be with family.

if that doesent work break up. (i understand that you dont want to.
but you could still be friends.=-) )

i went through something that changed my life. its somewhat like your problem. 'steve', my crush
liked my best friend and i did'nt know until i told 'steves' friends
that i liked him. 'lucy' the girl that 'steve' liked liked him back and she did'nt tell me. i did'nt find out that 'lucy liked him until the day they became boyfriend and girlfriend.
i was ultimately heart broken, and she lied to me. i went insane and hated her for a while. well were bfflnmwh now and i got her back. but everytime she talked to him, i got really nervous that
hed talk to me and all that wou;d come out is mummble jumble.
i still like him and other ppl told me at yahoo answers to move on.
i cant.

Answer 8

Since u can't dump him, wait 4 him 2 dump u. Cos' thats where he's headed. U have an abusive relationship that should end ASAP.

Answer 9

First thing is to learn to love yourself, second get rid of anyone who doesn't care about you. You won't die or go crazy. Get someone better than him and show him that you don't need him.
You can do a lot better. Do you just like abuse? Lots of chics do. but they are all stupid and they all have very low self esteem.

Answer 10

girl you have to leave him alone. i was married and my husband put me thru ALOT. i didn't want to ruin my marriage and take my kids away from my husband, but you can't live like that forever. it will be VERY hard at first, but you have to let go. it's the safest thing for you and believe it or not you will be happy again. i am very happy now and i have a great man