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I've been best friends with this girl for like 2 years..All of her other friends have stabbed her in the back yet we always remained friends..now i'm her only friend and she's mine, however i now have a b/f that i've been with for 7 months..its so hard to share time with both of them. usually i like to spend more time with him because i love him, but then she gets mad. She's always downing herself and thinks she's a failure even though she's sooo smart. Now we always get into arguments about the same thing over and over..i get so tired of it yet she's my only true friend and i don't want to abandon her like all her other friends have. what do i do?

2006-06-07 13:22:55 · 4 answers · asked by melissa D 2 in Family & Relationships Friends

4 answers

You said something very astute : "She's always downing herself and thinks she's a failure even though she's sooo smart."....... I think you are right : she is smart. So, if she is smart she is being manipulative by "downing herself' and "arguing" with you. She will always be your friend, but friendships do not remain constant all of the time. Sometimes you feel closer and sometimes further apart. Right now you need to take a breather from your friendship. "Pessimism" is negative energy. Your friendship deserves better. Just wait it out.
Good luck.

2006-06-07 14:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0 0

OK, do this........ get 2 big wall calenders and sit down with her... make a day to day plan.. not every day but at least a 3 to 4 day of the week plan...decide together how many hrs of the week would be fair.. like 8, 12. 14 or what ever.. then spread those hrs over the days...... like Mon. 3 hrs shopping, tues. 2 hrs relaxing by the pool, etc...... it does NOT have to be an everyday thing..... but be fair to her.... but be sure the 2 of you talk about the boundaries, she can NOT interferee with b/f time and you will have to tell b/f that he can NOT interfer with friend time...... explain to both parties the idea behind the planning of time, you don't want to loose either of them and how much they both mean to you etc......... and when you make the plan and promise to abide by it all, do it...... don't break dates unless it is an emergency......... God bless

2006-06-07 20:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0 0

Nothing. She is who she is, let her be. Worry about who you are and what you are doing . Look at what you said about your friend . what does that say about you?

2006-06-07 21:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by pms247 3 · 0 0

PUT her in check

2006-06-07 20:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by -Uriah- 2 · 0 0

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