I look back at good times with to sepsons &wife came a long wy but i became aworkaholic les time spent with famile .i mis lots but hert them regreat but cant change the past i wish.I onely won"t what"s best for them & to be happy!!!!! should I Devorce ???????
2006-06-07 13:22:19 · 9 answers · asked by 66hamerheadPD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you cannot change the past but you can change the future! Cut less on your hours at work and start putting your wife and family ahead of work where they belong. Spend more time with them and more time even with your wife. You should not divorce her ... Show her that you can change and seek counseling and help and see if she is open to working things out with you and this marriage. If so find a marriage counselor and get the help you need. You are the best for them and their happiness just make sure to make yourself the husband and father you need to be and cut back on work and put it in its proper place!
2006-06-07 13:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any proof she's cheating on you when she's splitting for (parts unknown) while you are at work then? Where does she say she is going? I take it she doesn't WANT to tell ya (and that is pretty suspicious to be sure!) You sure have not been married very long. Would it screw you up financially (house hers, yours?.. do you have to give her alimony?) if ya broke up w/her? if not, perhaps you should. You sound nice as you regret turning into a workaholic.. and wish you hadn't hurt them. You know what? you CAN change the past tho (so I disagree w/you there..) I think it's interesting you want what's 'best for them and for them to be happy" and didn't emphasize yourself.. (You are not selfish anyway.) Hmm, this is a 50-50 deal. Did you mention divorce to the wife? I'm guessing it has come up (but you love 'em enuff you don't want it.) If she is cheating, could you be man enough to take her back? That's the question here. If you can take her back, I say work on it.. If the thought of her being w/another man (and you're suspicious) is totally distasteful to you, then go to a lawyer. Too bad you guys couldn't work out some kind of an amicable settlement (since it IS her that's cheating.. you're not at fault for being a 'workaholic' in my book.. I like workaholic types personally. I'm a female workaholic, lol.) Have you been married before? I know we all look back at the 'good times' (typical) and that overshadows all the bad **** going down too, buddy. (Sometimes helps to know you've got 'company' in the world..) g'luck.. later melancholia
2006-06-07 20:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be easier to change your ways and spend some time at home with your family. There will come a day when you regret what is going on today. Forget about the past, it is today and tomorrow you can change...just do it starting now.
2006-06-07 20:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u should try and get them back
first every relationship must have a balance
if ur at work all the time then ur wifes needs are not being met
u have no time w/kids
that leads to loneliness
i can c where she would be lonely
2006-06-07 20:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by princess_tammi2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-07 21:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i get nothing out of your Question so please rephrase in English and use SPELL CHECK please. I am not being funny or mean or rude just letting you know.
2006-06-08 01:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't divorce. just balance your work it can happen if u try
2006-06-07 20:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a problem in your marriage because your stupid and you can't spell.
Ever heard of spell check? Please use it!
2006-06-07 20:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK FIRST ENGLISH PLEASE I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT YOU ARE ASKING
2006-06-07 20:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by wendy a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋