I am engaged to a man who loves me with all his heart, where as my heart is with some one(lets call him A) else who has no clue(Didn’t have any contact with A for the last 2 years).Yet A is always in my mind.
So I though maybe its just a crush (For 2 years!!) & my fiancée will help get over….The problem is I feel DISGUSTED when we make out. I hate his kisses …I hate it when he touches me! I don’t know why! This is affecting our relationship & its making me thinking about breaking up. Yet I am afraid to lose some one who really care for me…just for psychological manner!
Dont know am i really in love with A & cant get over him(though the only thing i did with A was talk!!)
HELP
2006-06-07 13:17:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your fiance can love you till your eyes pop out, but you have to love him back. Yeah it's great finding someone that cares about you and loves you more than anything. But it's only fair that he has someone to return that feeling to him. You are not in love with this man at all. You are in love with the fact of being married. Do him a favor and let him find someone that will love him just the same. Oh and that other guy, he has nothing to do with the way you "do not" feel for your fiance.
2006-06-15 00:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by 4real 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Grow Up. If you cannot stand to kiss him what are doing with him? Do you think this gets better in time? You think you're in love with someone else, who is long gone? Do the men of the world a favor, drop the fiance, go live alone for a couple of years and work on youir maturity.
2006-06-07 13:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding, right? You are being so unfair to someone who loves you...downright cruel. Where do you get off doing this to someone who doesn't deserve any of this. Cut him loose NOW...today! And I would hope that before you go wrecking havoc on someone else's life. I am sorry to be so harsh, but you need a wake up call..and this iis it. I am not soft soaping this at all. CUT him loose and let him find another who will love him back. This is NOT all about you!
2006-06-07 13:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't follow your feelings, but don't ignore them either.
If deep down you really don't like this person, don't talk, rationalize yourself into it. It will never work.
Why did you get engaged to this person if you're still thinking of A? Kinda late in the game, and I know I wouldn't have the guts to pull out now, but living with regrets is a sad way to live.
2006-06-07 13:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry this man you need to let him go to be with the person God intents him to have. Sooner or later he will realize you are a fake in the relationship and to have fantasies about someone else you have not seen is stupid. You need to grow up and it sounds like you are very inmature for anyone at this time. Trust me you are not in love with anyone but yourself. You are too self-centered to be with anyone. God help you. Ask Zella
2006-06-14 19:17:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand him kissing you, then you have no business being engaged to him. Break up with him and do both of you a favor. You can keep looking for a guy that's right for you and so can he. He'll be miserable with you, just like you are with him.
2006-06-07 13:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by moviegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there...the best thing you can do for yourself is to get out NOW!
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this? Love is hurting someone and being hurt...so do the right thing before you say 'I do."
2006-06-15 11:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by hobbi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know why you are disgusted?? You said so yourself....you're heart is with someone else. You answered your own question. Don't marry this guy if you don't love him. It's really unfair to him.
2006-06-07 13:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jennylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thoughts are very revealing of what's happening with you. obviously you don't love his habit, so that you sense disgust. study the link less than to get the full photo of this emotion. <
2016-11-14 08:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by wesch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i stayed with a guy for 8 years i felt like that about. he was wonderful to me. i just would gag when we kissed. we since broke up cuz he could feel i wasnt attracted to him. we are best friends now for 22 years. don't stay. it will end. tell him you love him with all your heart but are not in love with him in an attraction way. its going to be hard. but you must do it. who knows what attracts us to one person and not another, it just is... good luck
2006-06-07 13:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋