I one day would like to marry again but the first experience was so unrewarding that I am not sure if I have the courage to do so. If I were your best friend, what advice would you give me concerning a second marriage?
2006-06-07 13:10:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say go for it. Lots of people just rush into marriage and don't talk about their hopes and desires. Some are too young to even know what they want in life and so that's the only thing they have in common, then when they grow up, they drift apart. In a second marriage you know what you don't want, what doesn't work, and a less fairy tale way of looking at things.
2006-06-07 13:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by sgrjackson1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and make sure this is the right one. Be sure to do it right this time and learn from the past mistakes made in your fist marriage and vow in your heart to learn from them and to never make the same mistakes again if you can help it. Seek counseling and help to heal from the pain from the split of of your first marriage and you may also want to go to a Divorce recovery workshop at a local church as well. Get to know the person really well and make sure they are the right one this time before you make that ultimate commitment. Someday with time and healing you just may have the courage to move on again and try a new relationhip someday and maybe even marry again. Just take your time and heal first and take it slow!
2006-06-07 20:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married, I'm in my second marriage and believe me it's way better than my first. See you learn alot, so you have expierience in marriage so you tend to do things better. Give it another chance, not cause it went wrong the first time means that it's going to be bad all the time
2006-06-07 20:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you meet someone and feel that you should marry them. Do not try to make such a decision now. Wait until you are ready. Never shut the idea out completely, but don't get wrapped up in the idea. Live your life, and if it happens and is right, you will know it. If not, then no big deal.
2006-06-07 20:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I don't like about second marriages is that you may have to pay the price for the crimes of the first wife. At least that's what I do. My husband keeps forgetting that I'm not like his first wife.
2006-06-07 20:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cant live life concerned about what happened in ur past...u have to move on and give urself a chance to love again.
2006-06-07 20:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by obioras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Just because a marriage didn't work out the first time, doesn't mean you can't marry someone else and have it work splendidly.
2006-06-07 20:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Casimir Alexander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your heart to new loves and experiences. Bitterness will cost only you, no one else. Fear of being hurt will prevent your being hurt...true, but it will prevent you from finding any happiness also. That is not a good trade off, is it?
2006-06-07 20:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time dont rush things will naturally fall into place. People sometimes get over eager and just dive in without really knowing what they've gotten themselves into. If you go head first you will regret it.
2006-06-07 20:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by The_Ladies_Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say try it before you buy it. play house for a little while or for as long as it would take. some people say why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? i say that milk is only free until you say it isnt then make your decision. good luck...
2006-06-07 20:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋