going to a stripclub while married. is that bad or ok?

Question

how can i argue this subject with my other half

*********alright so i got ur answer and i guess my balls have to take one for the team. too bad (curiosity sucks), my intrest remains with my lady.

Answer 1

Dude, it depends on how often you go, how much money you spend there, how much fun your having there, who your going there with, who your leaving there with and how you act when you get home.
If your not going more than once every month or two, not spending large amounts of money there, not falling in love with any of the strippers there, not having orgasmic experiences there, your going with good guy friends that would not encourage you to do something to end your marriage, not leaving with anyone that works there, and your treating your wife like a Goddess when you get home, than she should not be too upset.
I think it also depends on who your wife is. Some women absolutely hate it when their husband goes, while some women dont care so long as he is not breaking any rules that the two have set.
Just make sure your telling your wife how much you appreciate her body and that she is the only one for you!
Realistically though, if she is the one you want to be with and it bothers her, dont go! That simple! What will a stripper do for you that your wife wont do? Maybe you just have to ask her nicely?!!

Answer 2

On occassion it should be OK if you have already built up the love and trust in the relationship. If you find you are going there a lot then it will become a problem. Casual viewing can be like a rich dessert made all the better by the rarity of the occassion but if you are getting a steady diet it will cause trouble in your relationship.

Your lady will wonder what you see in those women and what they have that she doesn't and she will know that she cannot compete with them on that level and she will become resentful and angry and you will have endless problems.

Answer 3

No, not unless there is a reason, such as a bachelor party. Personally, I would never let whom I am with to go to a strip club without me. It's just not right. If there was an equivolant male club, and not these lame ones that are available now, and the men were very permiscuious and available after the show or even during in the "backroom" for a dry rub up and the women going were seedy, sitting in dark corners just sitting there watching the men like they were meat and you knew she was just sitting there wanting to screw them deep inside, would you like it? Naw, you better give that one up...

Answer 4

It all depends on how your other half feels. I am okay with my hubby going every once and a while, and I will even go with him from time to time. If your wife is strongly against it, then don't. And it all depends on why you want to go. If you are going just for some entertainment, I don't see it as a problem. But if you are going there to look at the women, to get sexually arroused, or see something that you don't get at home, definately a bad idea.

Answer 5

It's not OK.Even though men and women do it,It can cause problems at home because your attention is not on your wife,it's on going to the club to get that lap dance.It can become such a habit that you Will spend money on that when it's suppose to go on bills or car payment or mortgage or rent. Do you get the idea?It does not happen right away,but the more you do it the worse it becomes.I know I've been there.

Answer 6

You should ask yourself: Why do I want to go? The answer should tell you if going is a threat to your relationship or not. Personally it would really hurt my self esteem if a man I loved went to stripclubs. They objectify women and can give you some twisted expectation as to what a woman should look like and how she should behave sexually.

Answer 7

You made a committment why don't you take that certificate and throw it in the garbage now becasue if you are considering it already you have already crossed a boundary with thought. Breaking trust WILL HURT YOUR MARRIAGE..is your wife ugly? Not good enough for you? this is what you are saying when you go there no matter what you verbalize what you do shows your true intent. Don't be stupid.

Answer 8

Okay I can not speak for your other half but when my husband and I first got married we both DJ at strip clubs. But there was always and understanding we new who we went home with. Are you willing to let her go to a strip club. if so then maybe you two can make a deal. How do you feel about her at a strip club they are fun and you can meet all kinds of men?????

Answer 9

It really isn't your opinion on this that is the problem is it? Obviously, you feel that you can handle such a situation without jeopardizing your marraige. It is her views that are throwing a wrench in your gears! Either she WILL or she WON'T condone it. I do not know what makes some women say it is acceptable, and some women not. Personally, I love my husband 110% and I trust him without question to handle himself in that situation. When the day is over- he comes home to me, and I end up benefiting from his little "outing". :) I have never ended up with the short end of the stick on this one.... no pun intended--- well, ok, i DID intend on that pun, LOL. Reassure her of your love for her often and without her asking. She will grow to trust you if you are truly sincere, and she will see that there is nothing for her to be insecure or jealous of.

-Wife in MO

Answer 10

anyone that's married that tells you it's ok, won't be married long.
so it's your choice
was your marriage a forever commintment?
If so, ask yourself this question.
how bad do you want to keep that commitment.
howe bad do you want it?
if you want it bad enough, you will work to keep it.
if not
....
then you won't care and will find a way to forfiet.

for a womans point of view.
leave the other stuff alone.. you will have a happy forever
can't leave it alone
you will loose more rewards in a happy marriage than you can ever imagine.