I just a had a baby in september and that would be my 3rd one. every year I had a kid out of guilt except my first one . I 'm afraid he'll breakup with me and don't understand my reasons for not having this one(too many at once,health risks, him not being able to hold or have a job). I told him that i would have another baby with him but not right away . I'm only 21 and I haven't got live a young life and he's 25 so he has expreinced much more than I have. But when i try to tell him that he acts like I want to run around and be all slutty, when i really just want to be free have fun with my friends before I get too old. I just need some good advice ...... thanks for your time.
2006-06-07 12:33:39 · 18 answers · asked by fromthecidstodasticks218 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't have an abortion! At least have the baby and put it up for adoption. There are many people who would love to adopt a newborn baby and would give it a very loving home. If you wait, at least you can decide later if you keep it or not.
2006-06-07 12:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your family. Get someone involved and get the heck out of that situation. If he can't let you go have some fun on your own, you are living life as a prisoner and bringing innocent children into your cell.
It is not healthy for anyone, especially your children. Your giving your kids jobs before they are born, that is so not fair. When the novelty of one wears off, you move on to having another.
Whatever happens, you better make sure those babys are taken care of. Get help now, don't wait, you are on the verge of ending up on the local news.
2006-06-07 12:53:41 · answer #2 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ok ok Maybe I can help. Im 23 a mother of 2. Im an X-Club girl. I would be quick to leave my kids to go out and get drunk. I was letting Temptation lead me. I have learned now that my kids are more important. I love them. Have you ever just sat and looked at them I mean really take a min out of your day and say "What would I do without them" Let your kids love guide you. You can do it. Maybe its not a good Idea to have another one but take care of the ones that are here. If your bf cant keep a job. I would also find a new bf. I really wish you the best of luck. I myself am a single parent Dad is in jail till 2016 so I dont have help either. Im proud of myself for being abel to do it without SRS help. You can do it too!! and get on birthcontrol please Its not our kids fault they did not ask to be here.
2006-06-07 12:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by mexchick316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is 22 and she has 3 kids. She started having kids at 16. She had the problem of never getting to go out for a while, but now she's able to go out every once in a while to do things. Of course, her husband is not always the one that has to watch the kids. Even so, she gets to go out with her friends and do things. Try finding a babysitter, if he is unwilling, that way you can go out for a fun night with your girlfriends. I think you should talk to him about it. Offer to have him go to the doctor with you. Let him hear what the doctor has to say. Then maybe you two can negotiate it. Really, it's not his choice, because you are the one carrying the baby. But maybe he will agree to let you go out when you want if you agree to have this baby. Also, another way my aunt got to go out more is by taking the kids places. She takes her 5 and 2 year old to the movies. Sure she has to watch little kid movies, but she still gets to go out!
2006-06-07 12:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by goshimwaycool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was the perfect question to ask yourself a long time ago. You have children now. You should focus on them I say have the baby and love it like you love the others. Quit letting yourself get into the situation to get pregnant. If you bf is not up to par then you chose poorly and can only blame yourself. You should consider yourself lucky because when your kids are grown you will still be young and able to have fun more often then. YOUR KIDS SHOULD COME FIRST QUIT BEING SELFISH!
2006-06-07 12:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by sonione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously too young(mentally) to have children in the first place. What about the kids, you mentioned nothing about the children. How will having another child effect their lives?
You want to "just have fun with your friends and be free"?!!
Your a mother now, grow up get some birth control and sort it out.
2006-06-07 12:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by DM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he leaves you he is no kind of a man or father. But think before you decide about the baby. You are so young and have never lived your life and if you don't now you will regret it when you get older and he needs to understand that. So he needs to grow up a little.
2006-06-07 12:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by mistyjlr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, enable me enable you understand as a guy i think of you're interior your rights to do something you choose to him. he's a turd. i'm relatively sorry which you the two wasted 2 years with the loser and now would have his toddler to rimind your self of him continually. As on your habit. You do what you choose. i do no longer think of adult adult males care all that a lot one way or yet another while a woman dumps them. it the two frequently the two hurts or sounds like a relief. yet he dumped you so which you purely enable him slither in unload and slither out. I doubt he has a lot feeling in any respect.
2016-09-28 04:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is more of a joke rather a problem,but any way,you need character counciling.The guilt baby make a lady mad in later life.If you like fun and your husband also approves it,then go for uterous removal and have fun and only fun.
2006-06-07 12:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by catcanind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand life is tough i am 19 with a 3 mo old. i would have the baby, there are so many couples that want kids. but dont keep a baby you arnt ready for or dont want thats not fair to the child.
2006-06-07 12:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by Calia'a Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋