I need help dealing with my parents?

Question

ok,my mom is really pissed off at me because I havnt been acting up to her standards around my house like clearing my plate or doing my chores wich she already dosnt pay me for...not like she is supposed to....but I'm totally broke and all my friends have an Ipod and I really want one. but now shes so pissed off I cant watch T.V. or see any of my friends for a week or else I'll get beaten...I really want to run away but I want to come back at some point and I'm not sure if she will let me come back after leaving...plz help anything is worse than this hell I'm in now

Answer 1

Are you my son?
We just had this talk yesterday.
I told him, follow the house rules, or leave.
All she wants you to do is a few bloody chores.
Get off your lazy pimply arrse and help your mum out!
P.S. She would probably do cart wheels if you 'ran away', so don't consider that a punishment for her.

Answer 2

First your mother has no business hitting you in any way. That is illegal. Having chores does not require payment but responsible adults usually feel giving allowances teaches responsibility to children. You seem to have a very poor home life but running away is not the answer. Try making a deal with your parents if both are at home. If it is only your mom she may be having a tough time making ends meet and her lack of giving money is caused by the lack of it. If there is any future hitting involved talk to your local law enforcement but that may cause you to be removed from the home. Let your Mom know you will not let her do that without telling the cops. Try and work things out with her because there could be much behind the scenes you do not know about. You may find babysitting jobs or dong housework for others. Try and find a good solution to the problem. If your dad is there then have a family talk about things.

Answer 3

Hey, I totally know what you mean, except to make my life worse I have three younger siblings taunting me. I'm only a teen, but I do have stuff to say. Most the adults that will reply will say stuff like 'respect your parents' and 'shape it up', well, they're kinda right. Being a teen nowadays is hard, a small part of us have influenced media and adults to show us as dirty greedy little brats that smoke and get ourselves pregnant or into trouble. Just take your punishment and try to lay low, play on the computer or find something to do. Its only a week, and unless you want more of your summer in hell, you have to get over this week. After your ungrounded try to shape it up, try to. Clean your room every once in awhile, or do the dishes, or some chore that isn't on your list already. I don't get an allowance either, so if you want one you sorta have to wit till they've cooled off, but once they have, mention it. Dont make a big deal, just mention it, then start to talk about it more and try to make it smooth. It'll seem like hell from the beginning, but trust me, it really pays off. You'll have off-days, who doesn't? But just try.

Answer 4

Do the few chores you're supposed to be doing, and she won't want to smack you. If you are truly being beaten (it leaves bruises and marks) then talk to a counselor at school or a police officer to get help. Children's services will find you a foster home; but those can be their own hell.

As for the iPOD, get a job and buy it for yourself. You're beginning to learn the lesson that in the adult world, if you want something you have to pay for it. Your Mom provides food, shelter and clothing for you, not to mention medical care and moral support. It won't hurt you to do a few chores to make her happy, and you will have to do ALL of the chores when you move out on your own anyway.

Answer 5

Not old enough to work yet?
Listen, your home is your home. You have to live there too. Chip in. I let my kid keep her room as she likes, if its a mess I close the door BUT I expect that she help around the house we all share the LR, dining room & kitchen right?
If you were living with lets say, roomates, you would be expected to share "chores" as well.
If you are being beaten, no matter what age, thats not right at all and there is a way out which is NOT running.
TELL! Do not be scared, maybe your mom needs help?

Answer 6

OMG runing away..wow are u 6..runing away does nothing, only hurts u..where will u go,sleep,eat? yeah u might have a friends but u ant live anywhere for free . know that. just do the damn chores its not that much to figure out! just remember she is the only mother u have, ipods,and friends will pass but trust me she will always be ur mother and u should appriciate that.im in costa rica right now and have been since feb, I WISH I COULD DO SOME CHORES AND GET A HUG FROM MY MOM..

Answer 7

while the time is composed of attend that provider, with ease disappear till the church provider is over. I used to take a seat down on the donut save around the line from my church and use my offering funds to consume breakfast while i became youthful rather of attending Sunday college. My father and mom have been none the wiser. in the event that they want to be rigid approximately that kind of outrage, then refuse and positioned your foot down. in the event that they do no longer desire to conform, walk away and go through the effects which comprise your father and mom after the reality.

Answer 8

maybe you should try and see her point of view. Would it really hurt you to pull your own weight around the house and help your mother so she is not doing it all?? does she really ask all that much of you?? I know that you are mad right now but, you know in your heart that she has a point and you are in the wrong. so do your time and maybe next time you will do as your told without too much fuss. show your mother you appreciate her and love her and the best way to do that is to listen to her and to help her the best way you know how.

Answer 9

first do not run away, there is no better place than your home and there is no better person than your mom.
if you need Ipod and want you mom to listen to you, then you have to listen to her and help her... then it will be fair

now start cleaning your room and do what ever you have to do to help your mom

and remember no one in world loves you more than her and no where in world is better than your home with your family

enjoy it as long as you can and be an active part of it

Good Luck

PS: Ipod is not as important as your mom and her feeling...

Answer 10

well for one thing try doing your CHORES w/o her telling you to. she doesnt owe you nothing the only thing she has to do for you is put a roof over your head and make sure you got food (she doesnt even have to cook it) do you know how many kids would like to be in the position you are in? you had better count your blessings she dont throw you outta house...