A year ago my wife cheated on me with her Dr. She is 29, he is 40 , and i'm 32. She is a nurse and i'm a truck driver. They are still together, but she tells me he's not giving her enough sex, or any (twice a month!) wow! She' is thinking of living him to go back w/me. BUT, i don't think i want her back , cuz of all she has done to me. We are freinds now and we have MAD sex, anywhere and everywhere. Am i shallow? Should I go back w/her. We have three kids. Should i forgive and forget? Would she do this to me again? Don't want to get hurt, I'm barelly picking up da pieces of my heart i left behind. What to do?
2006-06-07 12:03:52 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
r u friggin serious....seriously asking this question wow
2006-06-07 12:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by playasmooth2005 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bazzar?? What the heck do you mean??
But if you meant Bizzare, you bet, you are the MOST Bizzare person I have met online.
One moment you are pitying yourself, the next moment, you are having 'MAD sex' ( which I think you will have to explain a little later ) Are you shallow?? Hell Ya, as shallow as the Black Sea.
She would do this in a heart beat. She has done this twice already. And remember that there are healthier males around and you aint getting any younger. ( Viagra is not an option, either )
Pick the pieces of your life, but leave the trash behind.
Move on, because you dont want your children saying my pa and ma were like wild dogs making out like mad dogs!! You would want to set a good example, dont you??
All the best!!
2006-06-07 12:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know how trustworthy your wife is. How do you know there's not a third guy out there she's having sex with? How do you know there won't be another rich man she'll give it up to the next time you're on the road?
Well, friend, you know the life. I've got some friends in the Navy, and it is almost assumed the wife is screwing around every time my friends go out to sea.
Sort of like owning a snake. One of these days that slithery bastard is going to bite you. Don't be surprised. If you can accept hot sex for the price of an uncertain future with a wife you can't exactly trust, why not. Might be better for the kids have mom and dad back together, or might not. You know best.
2006-06-07 12:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by trixwagen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep where it is for now. What if she meets a guy 25? Then while your on the road again she' being boned by Lance Romance. Remember why you divorced in the first place. She cheated on you for the Doctor, now she's cheating on the Doctor with you. Just be careful because you have kids. Her legs are open just like a Seven Eleven, Open 24 hours a day and you can get a Slurpy for 75 cents.
2006-06-07 12:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Grumpy Old Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of that mad circus act. She made her bed and you need to let her lie in it alone without you. Do you really believe if the shoe was on the other foot that she would be giving up the goods? Do you really want your children growing up confussed and thinking what happened in this family normal and alright giving them that false sense of security? You are not getting even with the man that she cheated on you with you are probably getting rid of his problem for him cause he ain't going to take her back after he finds out about you.
Bottom line: Be a man and tell her no backs. I can't understand how people can just bed hop like this. It's like sharing non washed underpants and used tampons(Feel free to use those images the next time you feel like hopping her bones.)
2006-06-07 12:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep the things the way they are. Do you want to get back with her and put the kids through another break up? It won't last if you get back together because of the history. You'll never trust her again, and not that you have no reasons to, and when you get in a little fight it will fall apart.
you need someone loyal to you.
2006-06-07 12:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by quizqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take her back. Comming from a womens point of view. Keep screwing her and make her want u. That relationship is good for the kids. But to see you argue and fight. And you leave again. That would not be good
2006-06-07 12:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm you might be having confused feelings because of your past
lets face it u married her for a reason right
but it sounds to me that your wife is a selfish biznatch who in truth only really cares about her own needs and if she would leave someone just because of sex...and i might add shes a cheating slut..... she obviously does not possess the mental and emotional growth nessisary to operate in any kind of meaningful relationship
personally if u like the sex do it for you but keep an eye out for a real woman and dump this one on her *** as soon as you find that woman.
2006-06-07 12:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by quasidivine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should. If you are already picking up the pieces now then why turn back?? You deserve better than that.. and she didn't just cheat on you, she left you for a year??? that is crap. I'd move on to a girl who will treat you better.
2006-06-07 12:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful. My marriage is lacking in the sex area right now and I wuld love to have mad sex. I think you should let her and the kids move in as a trial and see how it goes.
2006-06-07 12:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by firecrackertx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard one if we could have great sex with out all the heart break and stuff that would be great. but unfortunetly we cant.
My experience tells me once a cheater always a cheater especially if they get away with it the first time.. Who could figure . if your loving and rational and excepts that everryone makes mistakes we are considered weak and niave,. Im sorry but once you get away with 99 percent of the time youll do it again. .
2006-06-07 12:12:15 · answer #11 · answered by juneybug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋