Is it possible to have possibly got married to young (I was 20) now I will be 29 next month. Don't get me wrong I love my husband and care for him but you feel that you have meet the one you should be with and can not stop thinking about him. He treats you better than your husband. NO I do not have kids. I feel that this other person is my soul mate. I can not stop thinking about him, I feel alive and have never felt such happiness before in my life to the point I feel that I don't deserve it. I cry when I think of the happiness this other person gives me. No I have not had sex with this person. Just there friendship.
Please tell me your thoughts.
2006-06-07 11:32:23 · 8 answers · asked by firecrackertx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
CAN I EMAIL YOU oddbutterfly1?
2006-06-07 11:52:09 · update #1
My husband up until a month ago verably abused me and emotinaly abuses me too. My friend I have never felt this way with anyone before in my life not even my husband in the begining.
2006-06-07 12:03:24 · update #2
Your thoughts are crazy.
If your other still loves you more than your husband, divorce your husband and marry your friend.
This way, atleast your husband is saved.
2006-06-07 11:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be possible it all depends on who do you really LOVE more your Husband or this friend of yours. I think 20's might be young for some I got married when I was 18 & i'm about 2 turn 28 i have 2 precious kids, but i did divorce my first husband & got married again with a better person & he was my friend too but not while I was married. (it's a long story).
I think you should put a balance write in a paper the good things you have with your hubby & the ones w/ ur friend aldo the bad things.
Then ask your self this question do you really LOVe this friend of yours as he Loves you back???? Will you divorce your hubby after all this time??? Is good that you don't have kids. Put all the pieces together do what your heart feels & good luck on what ever you decide to do. The most important thing here is BE HONEST with you & with your husband. GOOD LUCK & BE HAPPY :)
2006-06-07 19:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me it is possible. Did it!!!!Was married for 6 years, to a very abusive man, when I met the man that was my soulmate. Treated me better than anyone else in the world. We had the same feelings for each other, and so very much in common. But I had two children. He was also married. Being a good girl, we let the friendship/relationship go by the way side. I stayed married for another 26 years and suffered the whole time. I was taught, if you made your bed, you sleep in it. After the 32 years married and the children were grown and gone, I finally woke up and realized I needed respect. I divorced the idiot. When I met my old friend again, he was also divorced, twice. We started our friendship back up and finally became lovers, and we are not going to look back. We have to much of a future. Everyone deserves to be happy.
2006-06-07 18:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bet that you said something similar when you first met your husband, otherwise you wouldn't have married him so young. I think that this is just new and you are looking for an excuse to get out, You don't have to look if you are unhappy and not willing to do the work that is required in a marriage, than leave him before you cheat and ruin any chance he may have to be happy and trustful with a woman in the future. How would you feel if this thing with the friend didn't work out and you saw that your now husband was really happy with someone else, maybe you say them from across the street kissing and holding her hand. I bet you "friend" wouldn't look so good then. But then again if it makes you happy to think about him being happy with someone else than good luck.
2006-06-07 18:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something is harder to get, you want it more, it is possible, but you have to consider how did you feel before got married with your husband, sometimes is just like turning the wheel to end in the same spot, do you think you will have better life with him, or in some moment he will tell you that you decide left your husband for him
Sometimes ts hard to know what life will bring to you, so just see yourself from a different angle and maybe you got the answer
2006-06-07 18:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by teotl15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say trust your heart. Your need to live your life for you and if your not happy then who is and who cares because your life is yours not anyone elses.
Do what you want if you want to get a divorce and run off with the real love of your life then hey, by all means have a wonder life
2006-06-07 19:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to think that once you've found and married your spouse... you should probably stop looking.
If your husband isn't creating happiness for you, find out why and work on it.
2006-06-07 18:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by UnrealJuju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no kids and this relationship won't last, you should move on for the best of both you and the man.
2006-06-07 18:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋