Ive been married to my wife for 15 years. Im 34 and I thought I was a normal man.A few weeks ago, a guy I work with asked me
over to his house to hang out. Once I was there, he started coming on to me. I told him I had never been with another man. Anyway way one thing led to another and we ended up in his bed. I guess you could say he treated me like I was the woman. Now the shocking part. I LOVED IT. We have since got together 2 more times, each time with me being the feminine role. I caint believe how turned on I get thinking about him. Am I gay? And do I tell my wife. She cheated with another man a couple years ago. But this is me cheating with another man.
2006-06-07 11:27:57 · 17 answers · asked by Confused4gender 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're still sexually attracted to your wife then my guess is you're experiencing bi-sexual tendancies that may simply be of a curious nature or due to an increase in your open minded approach to sexual awareness. Its not uncommon and more common than you might think. I think you would be surprised at the number of men who either have had similar experiences or at the very least have fantasized about them.
2006-06-07 11:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you both have problems. If you're not happy, and cheating, is there really a relationship between you and your wife? And just because it's another man doesn't make it any less cheating. And just because you like guy-to-guy sex doesn't make you gay. I'd assume there's quite a few guys out in the world that have thought about it; but most don't act on it. The different thing is if you find yourself emotioanlly attatched to guys, or finding them attractive, then you're gay. Either way; if you value spending any time or having any connection with your wife at all; I recommend you stop where this is going now. You might wonder what if, but when this fizzles out with this dude; you're going to be thinking, God I was stupid... IF it was with a woamn I would have said, ell her, at least then you have your honesty left... But even though you forgave her, I think it'll be alot more difficult for her to mull over you being with another guy.
So end it, your fling with this dude, and let it be.
If you feel you're gay, even after this, and can't just stop it with this dude; then get a divorce from your wife. It's not fair to string her along; her going without any emotional or physical attention from you because you're hooked on someone else. Let her know it's not her fault; you've got some things going on in your life. She won't take it well, but it's if you still care for her at all; is the least you can do for her if you won't end this guy fling.
2006-06-07 11:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would Jesus do? lol!! Why do you have to worry about labels? If you like somthing you like it. You are normal and why even bother with that. Now as for your wife, you have to decided if you want to share your life with her. You know her best, and if breaking this news to her will end your relationship and you don't want to end then either don't tell her at all or tell after some time passes. I think you have to find yourself and what makes you happy. If you are happy then you will bring joy and happiness to everybody around you. This could be a confusing time for you, but take your time don't rush anything. Think of the things that are important to you and act in a way that will secure you and/or bring you close to those things. Sounds like a good time for soul searching. best of luck
2006-06-07 11:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Do_what_thou_wilt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your wife. I suspect that you had those feelings for a long time and this guy did not put a gun to your head and make you sleep with him. I think you should stop seeing this guy until you can work out your feelings. Sometimes we do things that we later live to regret. In any case, please talk to your wife. This is a little different than cheating this is a whole lifestyle change.
2006-06-07 11:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok dude for real why do you care plenty approximately labeling your self? Who cares in case you're gay, at once, bi, or something in between? it is not achieveable to label sexuality, via fact it flows. it rather is diverse for each individual, and probably this may well be the only guy you ever like, yet for now, merely pass with it, do what feels precise, and stop annoying appropriate to the outcomes.
2016-10-15 09:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay
2006-06-07 11:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by hotwheelswd31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-06-07 12:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by painter18436 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never once seen you type-i used protection. you need to use a condom, no matter how long it lasts, how many times or how much you loved it.two wrongs don't make a right, i mean, you've already slept with the guy, but if you did it because she slept around on you, you need to tell her and get divorced or work out your new lifestyle choice with her.yes, you are gay!
2006-06-07 11:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by sweetcheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say you definatly have some gay interest, but it doesn't mean you are strickly gay ok...sounds like you're bi. i wouldn't say anything to your wife cause this might just be a passing thing with you and why hurt her. if you later feel that you'd rather be with men then woman...yeah i'd say you better let her know
2006-06-07 11:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by raylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all yes you should tell your wife.You married her and you have been with her for 15 yrs doesn't she deserve at least that? I don't really know if you are gay because I am not you.Only you can answer that.........go with your heart.
2006-06-07 11:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋