Hi, I don't know how to explain this but I have a real problem with affection. I can be affectionate towards my friends and family but I seem to have no interest in getting involved with people. What I mean is, that I like men, I enjoy sex but I find myself not being able to approach them because I seem to not care or not want to. I really want to be in a relationship but I can't seem interested, and that always puts me at odds end with myself. I get uncomfortable when men hit on me, and find myself avoiding situations where I have to be affectionate with someone. I have struggled over this for as long as I can remeber, even to the point of considering I might be gay but I honestly don't even myself interested in women and even though I still have crushes or fantasies about men I like, I can seem to bring myself to, well, care enough to go for it. Is there anyway you can explain this better to me?
2006-06-07 11:25:21 · 14 answers · asked by Caroline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are too many unknowns from what you have offered in your information to be able to offer you any opinions or suggestions. Things like your past relationships, if any, your age, your family history, etc. If you could offer more information it would be very helpful.
2006-06-07 11:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk with a psychologist or that sort of person. They should be able to help you "loosen up" some. I'm only a high school student, but I sorta have the same problem. I like a guy and used to feel like I was in love with him, but now I just think about him a lot, but without the passion/ feeling or whatever. Love is different for different people. Maybe you think love should feel like and be like what movies portray it as and that has disillusioned you. I've kinda wondered about it myself, but I think maybe as I mature more I'll start liking guys more. I dunno. You don't have to be with anybody though. Maybe you haven't met the right person yet. Don't give up. And don't become gay, that's not the solution.
2006-06-07 11:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to be gay just because you are not interested right now. And just because you are not interested right now does not mean you will not be interested in the future. You may just be shy. Try getting to know someone online first before trying to take it any further. Or try pen pal-ing. And just take your time and try to get to know yourself so that you can pin point what the issue is that makes you want to build up a wall around yourself. Be patience with yourself and continue to enjoy your family and close friends. Good Luck!
2006-06-07 11:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by my_first_love_85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just have a lower sex drive than most.
I wouldn't worry. Just go for a much older man. most of them are past that by about 70 or 80.
2006-06-07 11:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, when the right one comes along you will suddenly be interested. There are all kinds of benefits to being single, try to enjoy those for now till the right one comes along... Good Luck!!
2006-06-07 11:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself lucky, this will save you much heartache. Eventually though, I believe you will find somebody who you will inevitably love, so don't worry, and until then.... well just don't worry about it, and have fun! Because once you fall in love, it's a rollercoaster ride, that will be hell on you, but in the long run it's worth it.
2006-06-07 11:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just need time to find the right man and if you do find him don't be scared to approach him cause you got nothing to loose.if you do find your self in a difficult decision with may be being gay you are pretty much the only one to answere that because you would have to look deep inside yourself for that.
2006-06-07 11:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry you will find someone that will knock your socks off. You jus havent found the stimulation yet, it will come and you will not have to try and be interested.
2006-06-07 11:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by FoxxyC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing wrong with you, dont worry
you probably dont feel anything because the right one has not come along and you dont know what to feel until that happens
if i were you have some simple, short, practically meaningless relationships until the right one is there
good luck!
2006-06-07 11:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Gilmore Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry this takes a long time to work. I wish you luck!
2006-06-07 11:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋