It is better to stay in an unhappy marriage than do something that is socially or morally unacceptable.
Yes or No? Why?
2006-06-07 11:09:49 · 18 answers · asked by Luv_Li83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm not married lol, it was just something i was talking about with my friend. and i wanted some feeback from you guys =)
2006-06-07 11:20:53 · update #1
Every marriage has it's highs and it's lulls. Just like everyday can and will be a different day. To leave a marriage because you are unhappy is wrong and selfish. You have to do what ever you have to do to find out what is making things unhappy for you. That is what marriage and saying your vows are about. To many people are getting divorced and I am one of them because well, I don't know. We have a son who is 10 months old today and my wife felt that she no longer needed me after being together 5+ years, married 3 years and when my son was 7 months old. I have a great job and a beautiful home.
2006-06-07 12:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would first ask myself Why is this marriage unhappy? Does it simply require an attitude adjustment, or is he (or she) just not "the one"? If it is an attitude problem, I would try to work that out before going anywhere. If I did figure out that he isn't the one and I had made a mistake, I would consider divorce. It would take a lot though, for me to actually do it.
Now to stay in a marriage that's unhappy would to me be better than doing something socially or morally unacceptable. I would feel wrong inside doing the latter.
2006-06-07 11:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage doesn't have to be unhappy. Relationships can be fixed and improved. What happens when you are married and you do something socially or morally unacceptable is you make the situation worse. People tend to want the easy way out instead of facing their relationship and working at it to make it better, it's a shame but so many people opt for the socially/morally unacceptable route instead of making their marriage happier.
2006-06-07 11:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, it is not healthy to stay in an unhappy marriage. Staying in an unhappy marriage because of the children is even worse. Not to say that it's any different for a man, but women tend to put everyone before themselves and continue to be unhappy to please others. If the person has tried to work on the relationship, had counseling and is still unhappy, it's time to end it...
2006-06-07 12:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Letsdohair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some situations it is better to be unhappy in a marriage. At least you have someone and you are not alone. You also have hope to make things better and you know the person you are with. Sometimes divorce sounds good but it's an easy way out of something that is probably petty.
2006-06-07 14:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people think it's better to stay in an unhappy marriage for the children. In reality, it's hurting them more by you two staying together. No one should stay in an unhappy marriage for any reason. It only makes things worse x 2.
2006-06-07 11:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by carolinaz_most_wanted85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew !! A VERY TOUGH ONE ! This one can not be answered !!! It all depends on the circumstances at the time. It is very subjective !! Is it better to stay in an unhappy marriage than do something that is socially or morally unacceptable????
Easy to answer YES if you are not in that marriage. If you are and are very unhappy,... then... --- Listen... by your question(s) you are a very bright, intelligent person !! ... and I still think you look stunning !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-08 03:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was to stay in an unhappy marriage it would have to be predicated on the fact that my significant other was as willing as myself to seek whatever means where necessary to retrieve or find the happiness that was anticipated when entering the marriage.
If this wasn't possible due to my significant others lack of interest or dedication to resolving the problems OR I came to feel that in fact the marriage was irreversibly damaged then I would end it.
Regardless of socially acceptable or moral expectations placed on marriage by society, if I wasn't happy and could see no resolution to finding that happiness in the marriage then I would make the decision to move on for my own well being as well as hers ultimately.
2006-06-07 11:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... It is unfair to your husband and yourself to stay in an unhappy marriage. However, perhaps the reasons for your unhappiness could be worked out with counseling. If not, it's best to get out and pursue that which makes you happy. Life is too short to waste being unhappy.
2006-06-07 11:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by funlady6632@yahoo.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It the only two options in this scenario are to stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of marriage, but cheat...or get out of the marriage before cheating then I say the only option is to get out of the marriage. Divorce is wrong, but cheating and deceiving your spouse is even more wrong.
2006-06-07 11:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by JennyJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋