my boyfriend turns me off when we have sex sometimes he cant get it back up b4 i get mine what do i say w/o hurting his feelings?
2006-06-07 10:52:10 · 8 answers · asked by Cutelipz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not what you say it's what you do. If he's not the kind of guy who has good control over his sexual urges then you have to set the pace and take more control of the activities. Don't let him have enough pleasure to find his peak but instead force more foreplay into your sexual activities. Lead him into arousing you more without reciprocation so that your level of stimulation is more equal with his. Unfortunately for some women not all men are as aware during sex of a females increased abilities to have orgasms and also that most women need to have several to find the same level of sexual satisfaction as her male partner.
2006-06-07 10:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking about it at a time when you are not involved in the act. Having an open stream of communication is key to a healthy relationship. By "back up" do you mean after he comes? If his problem is coming too quickly try using desensitizing lube, it makes them last longer. Also try having a longer foreplay session and make him get you off first. You can also tell him to tell you when he is close so that the two of you can take a break and he can get it back under control. If he's having problems staying hard, it could be he has a lot on his mind and can't focus. Or it could be something medical.
2006-06-07 18:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by McCzech 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need try and help him out by going down or playing with his hot spot or something because I know it works for me.
2006-06-07 17:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by raneka2cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have him finish you off with oral, his fingers whatever works and isn't there something you can buy to make him last longer? check out your local sex shop
good luck
2006-06-07 17:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by joannaK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohoh he better do some oral stuff first to help you before other stuff. He is being selfish...talk to him about other methods first.
2006-06-07 17:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about hurting his feelings... get him viagra! nothing feels more irritating than losing it when you're about to...
2006-06-07 17:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Shangri-La 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE CAN'T BEAT IT UP, HE SHOULD EAT IT UP!!!
2006-06-07 18:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by TOM TOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get "yours" first.....
2006-06-07 17:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋