Let's see . After thinking about this for a bit i would have to say it is because you are closer to your spouse then any other person usually in life. It hurts much more when someone you love and cherish hurts you then if it is someone you don't know as well or feel such a deep love for. God however commands us to forgive others or he won't forgive us and he won't even hear our prayers if we choose not to forgive. I would want to forgive my husband because if i were to do something to hurt him or make a mistake I would want him to forgive me. Forgiveness is a choice!
2006-06-07 10:32:22
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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Very good question. Indeed the expectations are higher.
And yet there is most definitely a double standard. I've seen a husband do something to his wife, what he can't stand seeing another guy to do HIS wife! You point out that they just did the same thing... but it's different. Because it's you.
I guess they know YOU better and have to put up with all of your flaws, which seems to excuse or justify it their doing it to you.
In actuality, the double standard needs to go for everything. The expectations need to be balanced with love which "covers over." Mind you, this goes for the small things. Things such as handling of large sums of money, cheating, medical decisions, etc. obviously wouldn't apply.
That being said - not forgiving is really not the way to go. Being bitter and resentful, and having it consume you only hurts YOU. Whatever it takes to find closure, and move on will benefit yourself in the long run, rather than holding onto a grudge.
2006-06-07 10:36:34
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answered by UnrealJuju 2
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Matters of the heart come into play when you speak of persons you love over people/friends you know. We tend to set the bar higher for those we love, because when they disappoint us, it hurts our heart. If you can understand your emotions, you can grow into discussing the problem with your spouse, then move into forgiveness. In time, being able to talk about the problem in a calm way will also increase understanding and allow forgiveness and patience to work their magic.
2006-06-07 10:39:47
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answered by rits20901 1
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Because your spouse is the one you've promised share your life with and love unconditionally, so when they hurt you it can feel like a stab in the heart. Whereas with others, you don't necessarily have that committment, so the sting isn't felt as much.
2006-06-07 10:36:14
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answered by Anonymous
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it's easy to forgive your enemies than your friends because you expect to be hurt by your enemies. you can almost see it coming. but when a loved one, particularly a spouse, stabs you in the back, it is very hard. when you trust your spouse, you basically give him/her your heart on a silver platter, expecting them to take good care of it and never break it. when betrayal occurs, it's like they shredded your heart in a blender. you don't give your enemy your heart. so no matter what they do, no matter what injuries they inflict on you, they cannot break that inner you. but your loved one can. they are the greeks inside the trojan horse.
2006-06-07 16:12:29
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answered by Thomas K 3
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Wow, your journey became plenty like mine. I did cheat on my spouse. Her reaction became solid, yet easily a minimum of I deserved. It took a protracted time, yet she did forgive me ultimately. I, too, found out plenty from that, at the same time with the thank you to settle for and circulate forward. That became approximately 15 years in the past. approximately 2 and a nil.5 years in the past, my spouse have been given fired from her occupation job because of the fact she'd replace into addicted to drugs. i became very much stunned and floored! Our kinfolk earnings became in reality cut back in 0.5, and she or he had to start finding out to purchase therapy. It became tough. yet she had paved the way. on the 1st day all this crap hit the fan and that i found out approximately it, I advised her, "this shouldn't split us up." And it hasn't. final week became our 24 year anniversary.
2016-12-08 18:14:14
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answered by ? 4
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Because your spouse is your life partner. It hurts more to feel betrayed by your partner then by someone with whom you have a more distant relationship. You expect complete honesty and trust from your partner.
2006-06-07 10:34:34
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answered by ? 3
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Because love and hate are very close.
The true opposite of love is indifference, not hate.
It's very easy to temporarily hate those closest to you because they get on your nerves every single day.
On the other side is our UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS of our mates. These unrealistic expectations are the primary reason for the bitterness in marriage and the destruction of relationship.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS, then you'll never be disappointed!
2006-06-07 10:30:53
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answered by drsteve362005 6
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I think it's quite the opposite; I find myself forgiving my husband for lots of things other people couldn't get away with.
2006-06-07 10:31:10
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answered by advicemom 4
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Because of all people your spouse should not hurt you if they promise to love you and be true to you.The others in your life don't really matter they aren't in your heart.
2006-06-07 10:35:20
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answered by Dawn A 5
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