my parents are seriously over protective. i'll be out at the movies till 9 30 which is pretty early and they'll be freaking out 'cause they think i'll be in danger. the thing is, im almost 17 and its getting pretty ridiculous that i cant even stay out after 9 30.
we moved here about 10 years ago from a country that wasnt too safe and it seems like they think we're still living there.
how do i get it across to them that they're worrying too much and get them to let me stay out later?
2006-06-07 10:13:59 · 32 answers · asked by xxhunxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Make sure they have your trust. Show them that you can go out without getting banged/raped. Show them how important it is for you to have a social life and that you're not sex-hungry. I'm almost positive you're female, so of course you'd have this problem. Just show them that you won't do anything stupid while you're out by going out more often and coming home safe and sound. They should start to gain your trust. Oh yeah, and talk about your night. Don't keep quiet or they'll be suspicious. Well, good luck.
2006-06-07 10:16:13 · answer #1 · answered by tingaling 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are an only child, they'll tend to be like that so just be respectful yet firm. Tell them that you know how much they love and care for you and you can appreciate why they would be overly concerned but the thing is, you're not a little girl any more you're becoming an adult so they need to trust you more and let you take responsibility for your own actions. Let them also know that by worrying too much, they are stifling your development and stressing out themselves unnecessarily. Make a bargain with them as a respects your curfew time. Tell them that if they increase the time to 11:30p.m and you get home at that time for one month then they can raise till 1:30 next time and keep proving to them that you are a responsible adult and they will begin to let go gradually.
2006-06-07 10:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell them straight up. Just be like you know what you guys are just too much. I cant even believe you wont let me stay up after 9 30 at the movies and im almost 17. We're not still living in (insert country you mentioned here) Its way safer here. STOP TREATING ME LIKE A BABY
hope that helps
2006-06-07 10:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's not much you can really do, talk to them about getting a mobile cell phone so you can phone home and let them know you are safe.. all parents worry about their children no matter what country you come from its natural to want to protect your children from any kind of danger, give them time to come round because they will.. after all you're still their little girl.. even when you're 30. I was almost 18 and had to be home at 10 o'clock.. i know it sucks but you will be adults soon enough and able to do what ever you want to do.. don't stress it too much OK. and i think the cell phone idea might just do the trick.
2006-06-07 10:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by juels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an over protective mom myself. Maybe not as extreme as your parents are to you, but trust me, I understand. My parents were pretty bad about this too. In some ways, you just have to deal with it because your parents are kind of set in their ways. I would maybe ask them about staying out till 10 for a few times to show them that all is OK and that they can trust you to come home on time and just work your way up from there. In all honesty, doll, at the age of 17 you are close to getting up and getting out on your own anyway....it wouldn't be that big deal to just put up with it for a little longer would it? They are looking after your best interest because they love you. There are parents out there that done give a damn what their kids are doing. Be thankful that your parents love you enough to be concerned.
2006-06-07 10:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them calmly that u think that they r being overprotected and that mabe u can stay out till 10:30 and then if u r on ur way home and u will be a little later then call them. if u have a cell phone (if u dont it could ur parents feel a little better if u have 1). Tell them that once u get to college that u will have to be out later and that u better start to get used to it now and that maybe it will help u in the future.10:00-school nights 11:00-weekends
2006-06-07 10:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by wimbwin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you need some freedom as a teen these days. It's perfectly normal to get like this even in countries where it's not exact safe. I know plenty of people who stay out late and haven't gotten hurt or anything like that. Other than that I don't really have an answer for you because once your parents get to be like that they always will be like that. But just move to a college far away, that's my best choice!
2006-06-07 10:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by I want my *old* MTV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should really try and see things from their prospective, it is hard for parents not to worry and be protective of their children because they are scared for them. I don't have any children, but when I do, I am going to be strict and I think once you have kids you will realize all the dangers that are out their that you really didn't know about. You should be proud that your parents care enough about you to worry about you, there are parents out their who don't care about their children and don't care where they are or what time they get home. Remember that your parents just love you that's all.
2006-06-07 10:18:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself fortunate and thank them for caring about you. Depending on where you live and where you want to go, your parents may be right that it is not safe to be out late.
At age 16 you are still very young, and possibly a bit naive. You have a long and exciting life to look forward to.
I am sure you will be better off in the long run if you mind your parents and consider that they have your safety and well being as their prime concern. To me, "overprotective" means that you are not allowed out of the house, period. Chill for awhile, sweetie.
2006-06-07 10:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by regerugged 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. They know better than you, and if you aren't listening to them because you agree with them, at least listen to them to make THEM feel better. It's not all about you. They are from a dangerous place, and since they've obviously taken care of you for 17 years, you could do them a favor and listen to what they say until it's time for you to be out on your own (and trust me, that will come soon enough).
2006-06-07 10:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋