2006-06-07 09:55:11 · 12 answers · asked by lovebug1234 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It could be a range of things.
Yes, he could just be saying it so that you'll continue to "put out." Guys do that sometimes. That's a pretty cynical interpretation but unfortunately all too true sometimes.
However, there's a few things to remember.
Guys tend to tie sex to love more than women do. It's not really a cop-out, it's a way that some guys use to "cement" themselves to a woman they love. When you don't have sex often in a committed relationship, the guy can sometimes feel like you are not as close as you used to be and that you're drifting. Sex is part of the committed marriage relationship and a way that a guy can express his commitment even without having to use words.
Also, a woman finds it easier to say she loves her man outside of sex, while often the guy feels more nervous about that commitment and has trouble verbalizing it. During sex, however, he's finally being intimate and vulnerable, and so he's more prone to both "feel" love and also more prone to say it.
A woman will often ask the guy if he loves her while they make love (she wants to know he loves her, not her body), so it's a reinforced behavior as well for him to say it then as reaffirmation.
I don't want to say "yea" or "nay" -- it depends on the specifics of your relationship with this guy. But it might be a negative thing, it might be a positive thing.
Since you're not married and thus he doesn't have a long-term commitment to you to back up his comments, it's always hard to tell whether he's just having sex to have sex or whether he's promising himself to you by having sex.
2006-06-08 05:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because that is the way he works. He doesn't think about how much he loves you when you are not having sex--because sex to him is love--he has the two confused.
2006-06-08 01:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by banker lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably an arrogant jerk- he onyl wants you for that reason: sex.
Strong, true relationships aren't built on sex, but rather on companionship and trust. If he can't be attracted to you through any other way except for tha fact that you're "sexy"- then he's pathetic.
Go out and find a better boyfriend- one that loves you not for your body, but for who you are inside.
2006-06-07 09:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by sweateredpanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he wants sex & he knows you want love. Women want love & know men want sex.
So, he tells you what you want to hear so he can keep getting the sex.
2006-06-07 16:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats because he feels like he is being intimate with you and you are sharing the most precious thing you can share and expressing yourself.
2006-06-07 10:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becuz he like having sex wit u and maybe thats when he feels your at your best
2006-06-07 10:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by jahmezis45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves f-ing you. Not really in love with you.
2006-06-07 09:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Scott C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it is part of his verbal sexual fantazy..
some ppl has verbal aspects crossponding to thier sexual pleasure...
2006-06-07 13:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by helix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's his way of thanking you for letting him do you...
2006-06-07 09:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just really good in bed....keep up the good work.
2006-06-07 10:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Betty Sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋