due to rushed decisions i made some wrong turns got married had a baby, got divorced, got married, got divorced, got married to a drunk then he turned out to be an alcoholic then we seperated then he got on the wagon then we got back together now all the things we did before he got sober we dont do not at all. we don t do anything but what he wants to do we spend our weekends just setting around. before we were always doing, now nothing,
just a very hard life to get used to. i feel like i have missed out and im going to continue to miss out
2006-06-07 09:38:14 · 11 answers · asked by Sue D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can recover your life by starting to make good decisions. But you have to change yourself into a person who makes good decisions. The way to do that is do yoga. STart a yoga class now. I know it sounds weird but it worked for me. I'm finally happy after two divorces and some rough times. Yoga works.
2006-06-07 09:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you have never had time to experience life with out a man in it. I don't think that you have wasted your life just made poor decisions, that's all. What to do now is just try to live your life to the fullest. Your husband is a recovering alcoholic not you so you shouldn't miss out on the things that you enjoyed. You've been through it before, maybe you should consider a 3rd divorce and try being by your self for a little bit. Don't make any rash decisions while being single. I'm not say don't ever see any one like dating or some thing just enjoy being single I do
2006-06-07 09:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't missed out on anything you can't still experience. Sounds like you had it kind of rough for a while with all the divorces and marriages. Now that you are settled down work on your relationship. Talk to him about the things you want to do. Men aren't mind readers and he may be happy just sitting around doing nothing. Tell him what you'd like to do and where you'd like to go. Make an effort to do things together as a family.
You might also benefit from counseling if you are interested in working through some of the feelings you have.
2006-06-07 09:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can make your happiness is yourself. You have to decide what's important to you and act on it. For sure the changes in you will bring some reactions from the people around and some of them might even be unhappy about it because you won't be the "yes person" they used to know. Fortunately, the people who matter the most to you and who feel true love for you will appreciate the happy person you become and will certainly encourage you to continue that way. Good luck !
2006-06-07 09:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by BumbleBee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. visualize what kind of life would make you happy.
2. believe in yourself enough to conjure up the bravery to make it a reality.
3. kick the loser to the curb (you already know how to do that)
4. work toward the happy life you envisioned
5. decide to be happy while you are working toward that
6. keep this up for a year, and I gaurantee your life will have at least improved from where you are today.
Do something! Even if it's wrong, keep trying. Life is always changing, you can wait for the change, or you can make it happen, either way,, it will change.
Now... hop to it!!!
2006-06-07 09:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"As long as you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten!" Now, that's a good quote! You need to move on in your life, or yes, you are gonna waste it. You haven't wasted it yet, you're still alive, and able to change it, so why don't you do it? Start right this minute, and make a new life for yourself. Good Luck!!
2006-06-07 09:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling and help hon. You have not wasted your life you have just made wrong choices. Learn from your mistakes and learn how to live your life differenlty and with a new perspective and determine in your heart not to repeat your mistakes again.
2006-06-07 10:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In that case write down what you want to do in the next 6 months. Then start to do them, with ot without hubby. Make plans and real efforts to do them. Dont blame him for you not reaching you goals.
2006-06-07 09:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by smutmonkey71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetly not get married again, or wait until you find the right person for you, dont get back into that
2006-06-07 12:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be a good person just think:"i am a good person"
i will be proud to be your friend
i am a french lady happily married but just trust in YOU
2006-06-07 09:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by isagauth_2046 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋