So my boyfriend is an athlete. I can deal with his normal training and traveling through his sport even though thats a lot and hard enough. However this sport is VERY important to him (as it is with most athletes) and on top of his dealings he also coaches this sport and also during the summer coaches at summer camps for this sport. When he is coaching it is six days a week and I barely see him. During the summer he is gone over half the summer. I have only like three months a year that I get him...and even then its not without the sport involved since he is involved all year long just not as much traveling during those periods. He is a GREAT boyfriend and an excellant father. He is kind, loving, understanding and attentive. However I am to the point where I dread these times of travel. He is leaving again on Sunday. How do I stay understanding and supportive of his interests? I do not want to feel like I hate something he loves so much and I do not hate it just hate that he is away.
2006-06-07 09:37:19 · 5 answers · asked by foolnomore2games 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unfortunately I can not usually travel with him. I wish I could more but between the children and my work I just can not. However yes I am really lucky. With the exception of the sport (which is his job) he is here and does do what he needs to do.He is a great guy and I wouldnt give him up for the world. We have hard times but every couple does!
2006-06-07 09:49:52 · update #1
Well Babe, If he is doing everything that he is supposed to when he is with you, maybe you should take this opportunity to really let him know how much it is impacting you. If you have no plans of leaving him, and even if you do, you really need to let him know whats going on with you. Not Whining or Jealous but really heart-to-heart (like after sex..Funny but True) you need to approach him when you know that he is listening and you really need to express your concerns so that he can at least take them into consideration.
And foremost Pray about all things Unceasingly and That God will hear you and answer you out of your distress.
Take Care!
2006-06-07 09:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Just My Thoughts... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about how you feel and that you miss him being around. If sports is his life then you understand that this is like his job and the traveling and everything can't really be helped. But telling him how you feel might help you and it will give him a chance to understand what you go through.
2006-06-07 16:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say you love him and he is a god father then go with him on the trips and try to understand his sport. There are plenty of women who would love to have an athlete tell him to take a little time out for the family.
2006-06-07 16:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by tinybuddafly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never really are going to get over him leaving. its hard to have him away. but if you love him then you are gonna have to tell him how you feel. tell him that you love him and miss when he is away. tell him that he needs to be there for you and maybe the summer camp is too much. tell him that he is a father and needs to be there for the kids not just chase after a dream all the time.
2006-06-07 16:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make the moments that you are together count, and those memories that you make while together will keep you going until you can be together again, you support him because you love him and even though it is hard I am sure he appreciates all the support and love you give him. behind every great man is a great woman.
2006-06-07 17:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋