Are anyone of you member of a sorority/ fraternity?Can you share some experience with me please?

Question

what is the goal of a s/f., are things really as depicted on films, do you really have hard time getting in, can everybody be a member of s/f?

Answer 1

Yes, I'm a former sorority girl. I say former because I don't go to that college anymore, and my current college doesn't have a chapter house.
Things you should know BEFORE joining:
1. There is a recruitment process, which you do have to take part in- it's different for every campus.
2. You have to pay money to belong to a greek organization. Some people view it as "paying for friends", but it's one of those things that contributes to the chapter as a whole, such as money for fundraisers, electricity, water, and tiolet paper. Very important!!!! Your money goes to much more than you're aware of.
3. Believe it or not, grades matter. Many sororities have a minimum GPA that they'll expect you to maintain without a penalty, like study hours or tutoring.
4. PARTIES AND BOYS AREN"T THE MAIN THING THAT MOST GIRLS ARE THERE FOR!!!!!!!!!!!!! People have the misconception that it's "Girls Gone Wild" all the time.
5. When you go greek, it's harder to date someone that's a GDI (God Damn Independent- one who isn't a member of a fraternity or sorority), because they simple don't understand the time committment greek life involves. Meetings, community service, study hours, sister/brotherhood nights, initiation, rush, intermural games, philanthropy,..........the list goes on. Not to mention the good times you'll have with your new set of fun people to hang with.
6. You get what you put in. Always remember that with ANYTHING you do.
7. Greek organizations are great stepping stones for things like jobs; networking is great!!!!!
8. I am incredibly lucky- I met a wonderful fraternity man (he's now alum) 3 years ago, and I'm proof that a relationship can survive after the Greek experience. :)

If you want more specific information, feel free to email me.

Answer 2

I've got 5 1/2 years of fraternity experience... can you be more specific?

what is the goal of a s/f? Most greek organizations are centered around social activities and philanthropy.

are things really as depicted on films? Depends on the house and/or campus. Some schools are more of a watchdog than others.

do you really have hard time getting in? Again, depends on the house/campus.

can everybody be a member of s/f? There's usually a bidding and initiation process.

Answer 3

Yes I member in a fraternoity. No it is not like how it is depicted in films. My fraternity was stated as a social and law fraternity so that is the point. For the most part we are a group of close friends bought even closer by the secrets of out society

DO NOT LISTEN TO THOSE THAT ARE NOT IN A GREEK LIFE ORGANIZATION!!!! They do not know anything and basing their opinions on movies or what they have heard. All of the greek houses I have been in or talked to members they are all different. Yes them might all dress alike and talk to each other but a greek house is a larger group of your friends so do you think you would hang out with them if you didn't talk with them? I know plently of people in greek life and they did NOT change who they were to get into a house!!! That is stupid!. Either you like to hang out with that group or you don't no reason to change who you are.

The greek system DOES NOT glorify conformity and discourage individuality. Many people think that simply because they usually see fraternity borthers or sorority sisters always hangout together. Guess what though pledging is where you become extremely close to your pledge brothers and the brothers or sisters in the house. I never realized how close I would be to these people just through becoming their brother. I never new how much i had in common with the brothers until I got to talking to them. I was in many of the same other clubs as my brothers and the brothers in the fraternity house, I knew them through the many clubs I was involved with and I still wasn't that close. If you want to meet a variety of people join a fraternity or sorority or just go around campus and talk to a variety people. In the clubs i am a member of I don't see much variety. In the glass blowing club see a bunch of stoners and it the frisbee club I see a bunch of lazy people that couldn't make it on the sports teams. In my fraternity I am now hanging out with people i never knew or would think about talking to until i joined. Current greek houses do not have a imposed standards to be a member.

Now let me explain to you why i joined a fraternity!

I join to meet new people and make new friends. Before the fraternity I was involved with 3 major clubs on my college campus and one I help start from scratch, so my reason was that i didn't have any friends, I wanted more. Also the opprotunities of brotherhood and business connections. I would be lying if the social scene didn't cross my mind as well. Academics were a big part alot of my borthers are economic majors like myself and I can ask them for help when ever. Finally I love the community service, I am my fraternities community service chair.

my college allows you to pledge as a sophmore so this is away to make sure you don't rely on a fraternity for friends. I am guessing you are in your second semester of your freshman year so you probably already have your friends. My fraternity doesn't keep me from hanging with my friends i made before them as some will say they do.

I picked this house simply cause the great community serivice I heard of. Also I met some of the brothers my freshman year. Also my friends from freshman year all liked this fraternity so that is why we decided to rush this one.
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If you are worried about if it is for you talk to the brothers in the house and ask them questions they will answer them. I know before I pledged I talk to the current president of my house multiple times as well as some of the brothers before I knew it was for me.

Answer 4

im not a member but it strikes me as a really conforming type of institution. u have to talk, act and dress a certain way to get accepted. its really not a place for people who have a mind of their own. ive also heard people refer to it as "buying your friendship". whether that is true or not, i dont know. im sure there are good things to it too though. like feeling like u belong to something. its almost like being in a gang (mafia). sororities are likely to hook u up with a job too. a "sister" with a good job is likely to hire u coz u r from the same sorority.