My bf wants me to abort my baby, what do i do?

Question

I am 18 yrs old and im 6 weeks pregnant. my bf doesn't want me to have the baby, he says that it will take time away from him and make him want to compete for my attention. he already doesn't let me talk to anyone else, and says i can't see my family. should i listen to him? please help!

Answer 1

you should not get an abortion, babies are the most wonderful things in the world and it is not the babies fault that your pregnant, and he should realize that. if you love him i know it is hard to leave him, but he is controlling you and can become abusive, if he hasn't already. he has no right to keep you from having a beautiful baby that you can love. if he will not let you leave, there are things you can do to get away. contact your family and ask them for help, im sure that they would be more than happy to help you, there are also clinics you can see. if you abort your baby, than you will regret it for the rest of your life, so get away from him and have a beautiful baby.

Answer 2

Please speak with ur family, they r ur #1 support system, Ur boyfriend shoulda thought about a baby happening before having sex!!!! This baby is a blessing, though it may seem inconvenient, I made the mistake of aborting becuase my bf at the time didn't want it and not a day goes by that I wish i could of held him in my arms..Whether I would of kept him or placed him up for adoption I just wish I could of held him. My bf did not care a lick for the loss and lonliness I felt, ended up leaving me. I have children now and am married but then I felt I had no one or no where to turn to.. There are many places to help you with ur situation and help pay ur medical bills, clothing, etc. You are not alone, and who knows how long the boyfriend will be around even if u did terminate the pregnancy. Give the baby a chance to live and make your life fulfilling and sweet.....

Answer 3

My name is Tigger and I'm 23 years old and have been married for two years and am pregnant for a 4th time. I have lost all three before and am 6 months pregnant with this one and praying everyday that things go well with this one. Just the thought that he doesn't want you to have this baby due to the fact that he would have to compete for your attention is childish. Even if he isn't ready for a child, you need to think what it would do to you emotionally and what it could do to your relationship. There is help out there for single mothers, and even if you think you are not ready, there is other options. Have you thought about adoption, because I know there are people out there who would love to have an child and can't. I for one know the heartbreak of losing a child. Let me tell you that right now I would do anything for a child. Think about the joys of motherhood and what do YOU want to do.

Answer 4

Sounds to me girl, like he has a control issue and is very immature!! A baby is BEAUTIFUL, attention or not you both created something amazing together!!!
But i dont know the whole situation but my mom is in a very controlling relationship and left her family for my step father. Seriously it was wrong for her and i hope you dont allow that to be your way of life!!! it is very sad. Anyway its your body and he yes helped create the baby but honey he could turn and leave you at any moment, do only what you need to do. BE STRONG!! i am 19 and 9wks along also but my bf told me its my choice and he will always be here, he understands the beauty in it, now that he saaw the sonogram. Seriously be strong and make a decision quick before its too late, if you choose to abort it. Do what you need to do!! Alone or together the baby is the innocent one.

Answer 5

he is very controlling. You are 18- go home to your parents and run from him. He has no right telling you it will take time away from him. How selfish is that. It is your body and your baby and he can't make you do anything. You need to get away from him. That is not how relationships are and it is exactly how abusive ones start. He knows how babies are made and he didn't protect himself or you. You can't use abortion as a birth control. You will never forgive yourself if you do what he says.

Answer 6

You should sit down with him and have a talk. Look at the pros and cons of a baby in your life. Also explain you can give it up for adoption instead of abortion. Also the part were he says you can`t see your family or talk to anyone screw him on that you should dump him if he`s giving you trouble.

Answer 7

Tell him to go to hell if u want the baby then you want it. I am 17 and my ex asked me to get an abortion but I told him no because I dont believe in it and second if I didnt want it I wanted to give it up for adoption and he asked me to do that too but I saw that when I had sex I knew the consequences and so did he so it is all up to you dont let him take this away from you if you do want this baby!

Answer 8

He should have thought about that before he got you pregnant. He is also might be telling you that so you abort the baby. Due to the fact that he isn't ready. Using it as an excuse. It's also sad that you would let someone else influence your choice. You were grownup enough to get pregnant. Yet not grownup enough to know whats right. Remember Its your right!!!

Answer 9

If he really loved you he wouldn't be putting you through this decision. Think about it if you had an abortion wouldn't you hate yourself for not getting to know your baby and don't you think God gave you this baby for a good reason. Seems like your boyfriend has a self-esteem problem. Make your choice and remember the consequences that you will have after wards. Good Luck. Don't let him make this choice for you.

Answer 10

You are talking about your babys life here, it is your decision, now is the time for you to stand up and act like an adult. Call your family and get their help. If you think your bf may become violent call the police or have your family pick you up when he is not home and then call him.