I was in an abusivie marriage. When I finally started telling people I was abuse I found a lot of my female friends had been hit by their boyfriends or husbands. I have also come across abuse in same sex relationships. Is is safe to say that most people resort to physical violence in relationships?
2006-06-07 09:00:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"most" people..i dont think so.. just "a lot" of people.. my mom finally divorced my dad when I was 9.. but until I was 9 I had to watch him beat her up a few times a week.. it's emotionally scarring and totally unacceptable and my SO knows that if he touches me that way once it's over.
2006-06-07 09:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is NOT safe to say that this is acceptable, period!!!!! Anyone who allows another to hit them is crazy. Hit me once and you are history, period. Violence leads to more violence...and violence escalates with each round. If you stay in a realtionship where you have been abused, you have no one to blame but yourself. Funny how the abuser is always soooooo sorry, but turns around and does it again, always blaming the one abused for their actions...and it isn't just men who abuse, women do their share also..you just don't hear about it very much. NO ONE should ever tolerate abuse of any kind, mental or physical.
2006-06-07 09:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have - by my EX. To say that MOST people resort to physical violence, I don't know about most - but some, defiantly. It's like a cruel cycle, children learn what they live..People that are abused are likely to grow up to be abusers themselves.
I'm glad that you got out of that relationship, good for you!
2006-06-07 09:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not most people. I have been in that situation before and have never looked back. People who feel that they have to resort to violence in a relationship, need serious help. I can tell you one thing though, it won't ever happen to me again. And if you are still in that relationship, get out!
2006-06-07 09:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Boss' n it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stay in an abusive marriage, it only gets worse, went thru it with my first husband, am now remarried and told my husband now that if he ever hit me I would wait until he was sleeping if I had to just to wack him back! He knows I ment it , we have been married 37 years now with no problem.
2006-06-07 11:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by judy_derr38565 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical violence is Not healthy in any relationship. It is wrong and it is not something that you should ingore because you think it's common. The fact is, it is illegal and it is hurting you and your family. Leave at once. It NEVER STOPS and ONLY GETS WORSE!! Leave immediately! There are plenty of places you can go to woman's shelters and organizations that help woman like you and that can give you guidance. There is help out there please seek it.
2006-06-07 09:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. I'm not abusive or violent in any sense. It is not the norm and should not be acceptable. If women left their men once the abuse started, instead of staying around. It wouldn't be happening as much.
2006-06-07 09:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by someDumbAmerican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some nights my ex would dream that I was cheating on her...hadn't before and NEVER did.. she would wake up and PUNCH me in the mouth..I don't remember how many times I told the guys at work that I had gotten into a bar fight. in the morning I'd remember something weird woke me in the middle of the night..go to shave and have a swollen lip and a trail of dried blood running down my chin and neck....Then when we divorced she told my relatives she left me cause I beat her up! My grandmother pulled every new girlfriend over and warned them not to let me treat them the way I had Donna... in eight years I was drunk at a beach party and caught her making out with a friend of mine and slapped her and punched him!! on another night she was ordering me to take her out but I had a SEVERE headache..used to get 3 to 10 day headaches..gave her car keys and checkbook and told her to go without me...22 times (I counted after the3rd) she ran into the room jumped on my chest and slapped me ordering me to get up and take her out...on 22 I got up grabbed her by the shoulders and pressed her against the wall and told her to leave now cause if she jumped on me 1 more time I couldn't promise that I wouldn't really HURT her..She left ...alone
only times I laid a hand in anger on her
2006-06-07 21:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have. and when it starts, it gets worse each time. my own mother died because of this.
2006-06-07 09:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by vbg2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋