I am almost 17 and trying to get pregnant!?

Question

my mom is in kuawit and she wont be back till march i have to live with my dad! my boyfriend is the love of my life we have been together for almost 2 years, my dad wont let me see him and he is sending me to flordia for two months. My boyfriend and i have talked about it and we want a baby how do you think it will work out???

Answer 1

i think you should do it. b/c i am the same way but i am almost 17 in October and i am pregnant with my first child, but why is your father sending you away for? and yes get pregnant by your boyfriend so you and your b.f should go to Florida with you.

Answer 2

You haven't even lived yet!
Heres is the truth, your Dad is probably right. Its sucks but you are so young you dont even know what life really is yet. Trust me all the little bull sh!t that you stress over now means absolutely NOTHING. You dont have real life responsibility's, and you have a chance to still have fun with your life! Do you want your kid to have a shitty life? Because that what would happen. Your not skilled enough to f ind a good job, well you bf is not. You will not have time to work. Also, if you have indeed been with your bf for 2 years, then you met him when you were 15. That's to young to even know what kinda man you like. You feel in love with a boy and him with a girl . You guys dont even know what you want out of life, cause if you did know you wouldn't think a kid was the answer to your problem.
That very question proves that you a immature, and not not seeing the bigger picture.

DONT BE STUPID AND MAKE CHOICE THAT WILL AFFECT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE FOR A BOY, IF ITS REALLY LOVE THEN YOU DONT NEED A BABY. HE WILL WAIT FOR YOU.

Answer 3

Wow, Hun. You are so young and you have so many years ahead to start thinking about having a family. Kids are hard. Real hard. I am a single mom and 23. But even being 5 years older than you I still wish I had waited longer. My daughters dad up and left when I was pregnant. He also my age decided he wasnt ready to be a dad. He wants to party and have more girlfriends and not be tied down. I NEVER expected that from him. We were really close.
Being a mom changes your life. I dont have my own time. Everything runs on her schedule. Ive lost almost all of my old friends once the "FUN" of my new baby wore off. I who never had a problem getting dates can barely find one not to mention I dont know when I would have the time to date one any way. I love my daughter to pieces. But Ive never gone through anything so diffucult. Besides...as much as it may not be fun to hear. If you and your boyfriend are truly meant to be it will happen. But bringing an INNOCENT unaware child into the home of YOUNG TEENAGERS is not the answer. Dont you think your future child deserves a STABLE home? Where her dad has gone to college and has the training to make enough money to give her what she needs and deserves. Plus if you pregnant now youd probally have to go to work just like I did. There is nothing harder than leaving your baby in someone elses care, when you know you should be there. Also, young marriages (if you chose to get married) have a MUCH higher failure rate. Your child does not deserve to be in a broken home. I cry at the thought of what my child is going to have to go through. Honestly. Think about it. Think about your possible child and what they deserve. Put them first before yourself. Make your dad proud of you. And beyond all make yourself and future children proud of you by making a GOOD decision. You have so much time. My heart goes out to you. I do understand being in love and having family disagree. I tried getting pregnant for the same reasons once. Luckily. My mom walked in and I felt guilty. That was the end of that. Plus I realized he wasnt the guy for me. No matter how much I loved him. Had I had a kid with him I would have been misserable. Make the right decision. If not for yourself, for the child.

Answer 4

Toss the baby idea around for a few more years...if you think your dad isn't being fair to you right now...think about the baby. You should also be fair to your future child and yourself. Give yourself time to get settled..by finding a place to live and paying your own rent..when you are comfortable with taking care of yourself..ask yourself if your job could support and feed a family. As far as your dad goes..Think about the reasons he may disagree with your relationship. Try to understand where he may be coming from as a father...sit and have a talk with him..tell him how you feel. Rebelling won't help your situation. And although your boyfriend may be the love of your life now..anything can happen between now and a year or two especially at your age. If you have a baby there is no going back..Boyfriend may or may not stay...Be sure your ready to handle these problems if they should arise.

Answer 5

Well if u to really love each other wait to have kids.Because I don't think either of u are mature enouph to take crae of a kid.And did u know thatwhen teend give birth it hurts more then adults?That's why i'm waiting and because i'm in a class called true love waits.And in this case whehn u both hit an age when u can get married,get married it's ya'lls life do what u want.But a baby at your age will be a lot on ya'll.I know this is going to be tuff not seeing him,but mabey he can come down there with you for the summer.or email and call each other.With u both being far from each other you'll be able to c if your love can stand obsitcals and if it does and neither cheat then it's real love and u should get married and have kids.Good luck

Answer 6

you are only 17 how do you plan to take care of this child? are you even done with school yet? you can live without your boyfriend for 2 months and if not then the two of you really are not in love anyways getting pregnant now will cause you alot of hardship have you even thought of all the expenses that come along with a child? daycare alone, in most parts of the us, is about $1000 a month not to mention that you still have to buy diapers, formula, carseats, clothes, baby furniture, and a whole lot of other stuff babies cost an average of $785 a month and that does not include daycare do you seriously think that you can find a job that pays you at least $1,785 a month i doubt it especially if you have not finished school you should serioulsy reconsider the whole idea of having a child!

Answer 7

Two things can happen here. One, it could work out and your family can have the best life. The odds are against you because of your age. Second, you need to ask yourself, why rush? If you have been with him for 2 years and are happy, then y'all can continue being happy without a baby. You need to ask yourself, do you want a baby so that way you don't have to move and if so, do you really think that, that is the best solution. It's hard and if you are so happy, have you ever thought that may be having a baby will disrupt your happiness. That is a very big deal and you can' just come out of nowhere and decide to have child. It's not fair to that baby if it's life turns out to be horrible.

Answer 8

Why do you want a baby? Do you want to bring to the world another unhappy child? How are you going to take care of him? Children are a great responsibility, and if your boyfriend loves you he will wait and try to make amends with your father. You are too young. i had my first child at 32 and it is not easy, I tell you. First study, work and try to be more mature. Live your life and then when you are ready have a child, for the right reasons.

Answer 9

Damn, you sound like me! I was 16 when I got pregnant with my 1st one. Girl, if I could only go back n change ****! U don't need a baby to keep ya'll togather. Its more like a force, even if your in love. Girl, love comes n goes, but a kid is FOR LIFE! When your broke as ****, can't go out (ur young now, just wait to hit them clubs!) can't wear anything that shows your stomach, cuz its full of stretch marks! and especially if dude leaves you! Good luck tryin to get another man! Be smart, think about your future, and the future you want to give your kids, and most important think about YOU, cuz in the end, YOU is all you got!

Answer 10

no offence but your stupid for even considering getting pregnant at 17! you need to atleast wait til your out of high school, get through college and have a good job so you can take care of your child! I had a boyfriend once who went out of town for a couple months....cheated on me the whole time! Thats just something else to think about no matter how much you trust him....sorry girl but teenage boys cant be trusted.

Answer 11

I think it will not work out well if you get pregnant. You are way too immature to be able to raise a child or make a good decision about getting pregnant. Your father is doing the absolutely correct thing in keeping you apart from your boyfriend. You need to think about what you are doing a lot more.