My dad lost his job and he wont get over it. he needs "love" (like a kiss/hug) like every 5 seconds. im 16 and wish i could just get away. but im to young 2. He is such a retard! Any tips on dealing with this?
2006-06-07 08:37:30 · 10 answers · asked by soccer allie <3 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Other - Business & Finance
It's very hard for anyone to get over losing a job, but men seem to take it harder, especially men who should be pretty well established in their careers. He probably feels pretty horrible and also with all the extra free time he has now, has nothing to take his mind off of it. See if you can "put him to work." Ask him to build shelves in your room, or a cabinet, or work on your car, or some other around-the-house task that he'd be good at. Maybe he likes working in the yard; hint that you think the yard would look awesome with some mums or whatever. This will give him something productive to do, and fill up his time. He'll also feel like he is contributing to the family, and that's important. Dads are used to providing paychecks, and when they don't feel like they are providing any more, they get really weird. So think of something that you want/need that he could do, and on a low budget (wood and stain for a really nice bookcase can be bought for less than $25, and you can fill up a flower bed on just a few dollars). You'll have your space, your dad will have some of his self esteem back, and hopefully there's enough projects to keep him going till he gets another job.
2006-06-07 09:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by dcgirl 7 · 7⤊ 3⤋
When did he lose his job? It can be a very stressful thing to happen especially if its something he's been doing for a while.
Understand that he probably feels like a part of his identity has been taken away which explains why he needs 'love' every 5 seconds.
If you're a carpenter and you lose your job, does that mean you're not a carpenter any more? No, you're still a carpenter just an unemployed one.
Jobs aren't what we are it's what we do, who were are is different than what we do, sometimes its hard to distinguish the two.
There is hope out there if he's willing to do what it takes. Good luck!
2006-06-07 08:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get out of his slump and start looking for another job straight away. Granted, you should help him feel better because you are his daughter, but he shouldn't be putting the burden of his melancholy on you. Have a serious conversation with him and tell him you're worried about him. Maybe that will snap him back to reality. Everyone loses their job - it's crappy, but it happens. The best thing to do is just keep trecking and look for another. He should know that.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
2006-06-07 08:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This "retard" is probably upset over how he doesn't know how he will continue to shovel money at you. If you want to make this go away, tell him that you will get a good job this summer and won't need any money from him.
Backup plan: If that doesn't work, you're well on your way to self-support and getting out of there.
2006-06-07 08:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by sideshot72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs some spiritual guidance and a good talk with you, instead of trying to get away , talk to your dad about the reasons this job meants so much to him, be there for him and encourage him that he can't go back and can only move on, communication with your dad and showing him that there is a way and you will be there for him will help.
2006-06-07 08:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by bryton1001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mean to your Dad. He's just ashamed about losing his job. You totally shouldn't be mean to him. You should feel bad about your family situation and help out as much as you can. Get a summer job cos it looks like pops is broke. Good Luck and please have sympathy it sucks for your pops right now. Don't call him a retard even if he is. Be nice.
2006-06-07 08:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to be there for your dad. He has to support you and that fact is probably making him depressed. He needs all the love and support you can give to him right now. Give him some words of encouragement, give him the hugs and kisses that he wants and just plain be there for him. Tell your dad I said good luck and good luck to you too. :)
2006-06-07 08:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, take a few deep breaths. It will help. Then maybe pray about it. Maybe think about helping him look for a new job, or at least some project to get his mind off of everything.
2006-06-07 08:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by **mil** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior is inappropriate and he needs counselling
2006-06-07 08:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Black Fedora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him enough is enough. take a chill pill things will workout sooner or later.
2006-06-07 08:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by vinayak v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋