Over the past few weeks my girlfriend has been very cold....she is going through some rough stuff with her family, but it seems like she is even shutting me out. I was going to propose to her soon, but now seems like the right time. I ask her if everything is okay or if I can do anything and she just moves on....What should I do?
2006-06-07 08:36:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be there for her... she's probably feelin lonely and lost... Sit with her n talk to her.. not necessarily abt whats goin on with her family .. talk abt ur happy times,memorable times.. bring her out of her this depressive phase, ... break the ice.. give her comfort that u'll be thr ... n soon she will look up to u.. if not that this will help her get out of the depression.. n she'll b back to normal..Trust me !
2006-06-07 08:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rays_Ur_Ways 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Going through rough time can be taxing on relationships, it take extra patience and effort for both of you to go through the ordeal.
Maybe give her the space and time she needs right now would be the wise thing to do, just leave her along but let her know you'll be there if she needs you.
It may not be the right time to propose to her, you should wait until everything blow over and then do it.
Another thing, marriage does take more effort to maintain and good communication is a must. If she is uncomfortable dealing problems with you, then it might be a good idea to understand her and how she deals with pressure before going down the red carpet.
If all she does is shutting you off when problems arises, your relationship isn't going to work well, let along a marriage.
Try to make your relationship work well before thinking about marriage, the last thing you want to happen is seeing your wife taking off with the car and no where to be found when issues arise.
2006-06-07 08:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient and supportive and just be there. maybe she is shutting you out to a certain extent, if so it is probably to protect herself, if she's trying to manage a difficult emotional situation its sometimes hard to let this feeling come through but still keep another one under control. try to cheer her up and keep her mind off things or at least give her a break for a while from whatever is happening at home by doing something fun somewhere else. proposing probably isn't a great idea right now, it may just add more pressure and it doesn't sound like she needs that. its probably not you its probably just something she's doing to try to maintain some control over her situation. hang in there.
2006-06-07 08:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and time, but let her know that you are there for her no matter what. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, be that shoulder, if she needs that somebody to lash out on, be that somebody, if she needs a hug, give her that hug. You showing her that you are there through good and bad, would make her feel better... or atleast should. Good Luck!! and Congrats if she accepts the proposal!
2006-06-07 08:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by aam112 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until everything blows over, and she will be back to her normal self then you can propose, she is just going through a rough spot and will eventually get over it and be nicer to you.
2006-06-07 08:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by J999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to give her some space. Don't push too much. When she wants to talk about it, she will come to you. Ease up for awhile. I would not propose to her at this time . Have some patience, and I know that's not easy. I wish you the best.
2006-06-07 08:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she is still into you. I fshe reacts wierd, she is not worth it. If she kisses you reluctantly dump her but if she ever gets into you like majorly making out or whatever than she still loves you. I would say give her time cause she's been through a lot! Marry her if you love her that much or she may make the choice to brek it herself!
2006-06-07 08:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by fairy_dust_xo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, maybe she's in love with somebody else and or maybe your the one who's not giving her attention or enough anyway.
Try a massage or a back rub or take her out to get a pedicure at a nail saloon.
2006-06-07 08:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and space. Be there for her when she needs you. Of course its not going to be like that forever. And you will feel used. But believe me its the best thing to do. She will come around.
2006-06-07 08:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋