I am 28. Said I'd never get married, but this girl is different. I've never been so sure about a girl, but then again I know things change. She is the best and closest to marriage material I've dated. And she isn't pressuring me at all, but I am getting older and maybe it's time. BUT there's always that voice saying "if you get married your independence is over." Do married people have that voice?
2006-06-07 08:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oooh. Good point, also she doesn't want a prenup. And I would be a majority of the bread winner (me-RN, her-teacher) If things go sour I lose all I've worked for, well half anyway.
2006-06-07 08:25:04 · update #1
No, I don't regret it. How important is that independence to you?
The marriage should not remove anything it only adds consideration for another persons wishes. If that bothers you don't do it. After 30 years of marriage , kids out, quiet house
independence is not all that important. Having the wife around is.
2006-06-07 08:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once. I wish today that I still had my spouse. Yet I would do it over if I found the right person to make me happy. Nothing should get in the way of romance. Think it over carefully, move or don't move in a timely manner. Never have regrets. What is life without a family a lonley person in the end. She probably wants the same thing from you...Remember each person is different and their actions are different. I say this because you say she isn't presuring you. Maybe it's cause she doesn't want to loose you at any cost and then again maybe she is feeling the same feelings you are. Best to talk to here and be open and find out where you and her both stand in that frame of mind.
Astunning
2006-06-07 15:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Astunning 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you aren't ready for marriage if you're all ready worrying about divorce. Second, no I don't regret marrying my husband. We married because we love each and can't imagine live without one another. We don't have as much independence as before but that's not because of being married, it's because of having a beautiful little boy. We were still independent after we married buy children change things. We couldn't be happier and are now very excited about bringing our new baby in the world come Christmas. If you have doubts, don't jump into.
2006-06-07 15:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by proud_usmc_wife04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i regretted it because i wasn't ready to take on that committment. i got married when i was 20, and now i'm getting divorced 2 years later. you should ask yourself if your READY to give up your independance because once you're married, she is your life, and once you have kids, they are the only thing that you will want to focus on.
if you really like being with her and things are good, then don't change a thing until you know that you can't live another day without her.
a marriage document is only that, a piece of paper, the love and committment that you show eachother every day should be more important than that. sure weddings are fun, but the stress could also work against you.
2006-06-14 09:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by curiosity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and singleness both have their positve sides.
When you're married you can NEVER make another decision on your own. No staying more up late, staying out late, spending money on just what you want, leaving the house anytime you want to go to the store, etc. etc etc.
When you're single you have these freedoms but you have nobody who's committed to sharing your life with you.
It sounds like you're NOT ready to marry. You're a man and that means you've still got a good ten years b4 the prospects diminish. You need to wait until you're certain. Even when when you're certain with no doubts, marriage is HARD and a HUGE adjustment
If she isn't presuring you, don't presure yourself. The "best and closest" doesn't cut it. Your have to know for certain with absolutely no doubts
2006-06-07 15:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by johnny z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 8 years and have 3 children. Our marriage has had so many ups & downs and our relationship is constantly being tested, but I have no regrets at all.
2006-06-07 15:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by juju baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not regret it at all! I would marry her all over again in a heartbeat! Marriage is what you choose to make of it and i wish you the best with this girl. Marriage is great and alot of people knock it but i for one dont!
2006-06-07 16:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must be a gemini , aqua or saggy. I'm a girl but yes all my male friends say that & have this voice. But since this girl is good so go 4 it or u'll regret it all ur life, & it's good not to have a big age difference bet u & u children when they come. Go 4 it & dont say i'm telling u that coz i'm a girl.
2006-06-07 15:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by loza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, I am not the one to ask. I have been engaged twice and left both times. For some people marriage is not the end-all, be-all of their existence. Good luck in your decision.
2006-06-07 15:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Simplystunning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats funny, i am married and my husband and i have two kids. alright that said he has all the idenpendece that he needs. I don't tell him that he can't go and hang out with his friends or have them come over. i do it too. just make sure she is not gonna put a leash on you and things will be fine.
2006-06-07 15:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋