How do you make it work or can it work.
2006-06-07 08:10:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His now back in love with me and I nolonger desire him in the same way. But I want it to work.
2006-06-07 08:24:21 · update #1
This depends on whether HE still wants to touch YOU. If your fire has burned out, but his hasn't.... yeah that's not going to work out. He'll end up looking elsewhere for mutual love.
2006-06-07 08:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by _Kraygh_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question Dee, because I am having the same problem with my wife... I wake up and i'm like, damn.... I use to be attracted to this person, what the hell happened? I know where your coming from. I think at some point we need to find a way to let our spouse know in a caring way that we need to do something to light that spark that hooked us the first time around. I dont think its an easy thing to do- but we deserve to be happy and attracted to the person we are with- If I can help out or you need someone going through the same thing to talk to, then hit me up, I would love to chat with you. klars75855@yahoo.com
2006-06-07 08:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Keith L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find out why you are angry with him. Most of the time when you feel like that there is another reason behind it and until you figure it out things will not change. With women- sex is the first thing we cut off when something is bothering us. Men- they don't care- sex is sex. I know when I am upset with my husband- even when I think I am over it, I sometimes cringe when he touches me and the thought of sex just kills me. I then have to step back and wonder what is going on and why I feel this way. You need to talk about it and then re-connect before it is too late. Have time for the two of you and remember why you love him. If you can't remember, then you probably never really did.
2006-06-07 08:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dee, the two of you need to talk to each other. Set up a day and time and go to dinner together. Away from your house.
Once there you need to be honest and open with him about your feelings and he does too! Talk about the things the two of you used to do that was so much fun! Talk about the things you did together when you first fell in love with him. Talk about the things he did sexually with you that drove you wild! Talk about sexual fantasies you may have always had but hadn't told him!
It sounds like the two of you have fallen into a rut! You need to break out of it! Next time set up a "date night" together. Act like two kids again and go do something fun and wild.
You may find at the end of this evening that you will want to feel the touch of your husbands hands on your body again.
Good luck!
2006-06-07 09:15:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! you've merely been married 8 months and he truly reported you are able to besides divorce??? what did you're saying to that? you want to have a heart to heart with him and ask him out appropriate if he has any regrets. Marriage takes a impressive form of exertions and disagreeing over candle undemanding might want to be the least of your concerns. do not enable him waste a even as if he's not really devoted to creating it artwork (that takes information, compromise and staying power to call some). in spite of the undeniable fact that i visit state that the first 3 hundred and sixty 5 days can be a real adjustment era for you both. I undergo in concepts how excited i grow to be even as i grow to be first married (11 years in the past) and that i had those type of expectations of our new existence jointly and my husband quite somewhat persisted his previous existence-form - fishing on the weekends, wings and beers with the adult adult males Friday evening, operating previous due and having dinner with coworkers - it grow to be a impolite awakening for us both yet we needed our marriage to artwork so by some demanding situations, tears and a evening or 2 decrease back at my moms we managed to get over that aspect. i wish you 2 can figure it out.
2016-11-14 08:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by sorensen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that the problem is with you and not him. You need to find out why you feel that way and do what ever you can to correct that. Of course Prayer is always a good start, but you might also want to seek a Therapist. Trust me divorce is not the answer in a case like this.
2006-06-07 08:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by guitars451 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is it you or is it him?......you didnt specifically say. If it is your problem, for instance.....menopause,...or a hyterectomy, or whatever,...then I think you are in a bad position and you have to deal with it,.......If it's him,....then i reckon you aint gonna change much of anything....so cut and run and quit wasting your time and if you're staying with him because of money, then you're being a little bit cheap.....get out of it and take on some responsibility for yourself and be happier in the end.
2006-06-07 08:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try getting counseling from your pastor or a family psychologist? Sometimes talking to a third party about your problems really does put perspective on things.
2006-06-07 08:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by living_a_lie8503 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek some counseling and help and figure out the reason you dont want him to touch you and why you dont enjoy him anymore.
2006-06-07 09:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can't work...you need to reconnect with him...try counseling, maybe you two can get back to where you were when you were married...or maybe, you have just fallen out of love with him...either way, press the issue, do not continue to be unhappy
2006-06-07 08:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋