Ive been with my gf for quite a while now and I found out that the only 3 times that she has had sexual intercourse with someone before me that she was intoxicated with alcohol all 3 times, and yes that includes her losing her virginity while she was drunk. Should I be mad at something like that?
2006-06-07 08:01:39 · 29 answers · asked by bad2bone2212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why get mad, it's the past...
If you don't like her or can't respect her now, move on.
At least she didn't lie to you...though that sounds like something you might have wanted (what with this attitude of being mad at her and all)
So you're going to torment her for a mistake she made WAY before she ever even dreamed of being with you. Wow you sound like a real nice guy... >.<
Why don't you just ditch her so she can move on and find a Real man who will treat her right? Don't be a jerk about it.
Let's hope your next girlfriend finds something wrong and 'punishes' you for it Mr. Perfect.
2006-06-07 08:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at her. When I first started having sex I was drunk too. It was just a way for me to relax and have a little more fun, than if I was sober. She probably feels insecure. I understand that you don't want to have sex with her if she is drunk all the time. But if she still needs a few drinks to loosen up then let her have 'em. Just give her some time, eventually she won't feel the need to drink before hand.
2006-06-07 15:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you be mad at that. It's called having a past. Face it dude, your chick is not a virgin, nor will she ever be one. And as nice and innocent she maybe, before you she was still attracted to the opposite sex and had needs. I bet you she is just lying about being drunk the other times thinking it would make you feel better that she didn't give it up conciously. Bottom line, she was screaming some dudes name out before you and will after you guys eventually break up.
2006-06-07 15:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by tobcol 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a reason to be mad, though it's something of a red flag in terms of her drinking. You might mention your concern over it to her, but just because you want her to have more self respect and because of the concern that she loses control when drinking. And if the drinking is an issue, she can look into Alcoholics Anonymous.
2006-06-07 15:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by JStrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in the past. Nothing can be done about it. It was her decision to make. You don't have to pretend you're happy about what she did, but I wouldn't make a big deal about it. She probably has felt bad enough about it herself. As long as she knows where you stand, that's enough. Maybe through being with you, she's learned to take better care of herself and would never disrespect herself like that again. I understand, however, that it would make you upset... But don't take it out on her. It'll only cause problems, I promise.
Good luck and feel better.
2006-06-07 15:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE! but keep an eye on her i have a girlfriend who is like that she uses alcohol as a reason to do things and wen u tell her bout her self she says she did it cause she was drunk your girl may be a under cover hore keep ur eyes open dude
2006-06-07 15:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by t_williams114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a neutral point of view, that is really disgusting, however, who can judge? . . .
In every one's history there must be some dark areas. . .
I would say, this is the way she is, evaluate the whole issue as a package, put what you like beside what you do not like, then just take it or leave it, with no judgemental attitude in either cases. . .
Good luck. . .
2006-06-07 15:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Romeo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT WAS THEN AND THIS IS NOW.
I USED TO GET DRUNK WHEN I WAS IN MY TWENTIES, BECAUSE I THINK IT WAS BECAUISE I FELT AFALSE CONFIDENCE, AND SEXYNESS
II WAS PRETTY, BUT I WANTED TO BE HOT, ETC, AND CREATE ANEW PERSON SEXY TALK, CLOTHESETC, AND THE REAL REASON I DID THIS WAS BECAUSE I NEEDED TO FEEL LIKE I WAS A BIG DEAL NOT JUST AN EASY LAY...
I NEEDED TO LET MYSELF GO, AND HOPE I TURNED THEM ON ENOUGH, TO WANT MORE OF ME, THEN THEY WSOULD PROBABLY LOVEME
I WOULD SOMETIMES CRY A LITTLE AFTER THE LOVEMAKING IF THE MAN DID NOT
SEEM WARM AND AFFECTIONATE, WHILE WE WEREBEGINNING,,
DONT JUDGE HER
UNDERSTAND HER]
LOVE HER
AND CHERISH THE GREATMOMENTS YOU SHARE, AND HOW SHE TREATS YOU
BE KIND, AND DONT THROW HER PAST IN HER FACE EVEF
2006-06-07 15:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means the next time she gets drunk, you can have sex with her, would you be mad at that? If yes, then yes, you should be mad at something like that.
2006-06-07 15:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Yondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not be mad. What she did before you has nothing to do with you. You should feel honored that she chose to share those very personal details with you. Sounds like she really cares for you and trusts you, don't mess it up by getting upset!!
2006-06-07 15:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by milesmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋