she always tells my bf that i might be cheating on him witch im not and were going to get married what should i do? but hey im going to prove her wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-07 07:50:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She want's to break you up because she doesn't want to lose her baby. Feel sorry for her. When you get married you'll be in control.
2006-06-07 07:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by kimmyisahotbabe 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As long as he is happy with you and trust you I wouldn't care what she thought. For what ever reason she does not like you.
I have been through that with my ex, and i know your frustrated because you feel helpless and hurt.
You bf is a mamas boy. That's why she can have an opinion that contradicts her sons choice in women. Its okay, I am one to.
Tell your bf that he need to tell his mom how he feels about you, and that hurting your feeling hurts him because you are a part of him, just as she is. Do not seek her approval, you have lost that battle for whatever reason. But you can win the war with psychology and using the protection and love that she has for her son. By telling her that he really loves you and he is hurting "HIM" not you by being a *****.
What ever you do, dont give him an ultimatum. That cause much strain in mine and my ex's relationship. He is a mams boy and will never cut off his mom. Its not cause he doesn't love you, it just imposable for him to ever cut off his mom. If you really love each other, this is only a bump in your life, dont sweat it.
2006-06-07 15:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his mother is jealous of the relationship he has with you, she is afraid of letting her son go, marriage is a big step and she is aware that once you guys get married that she will no longer be number one in his life you will therefore she is trying to stop the marriage or make him have ideas that the marrige is not a good idea because she's afraid she will no longer be the most important person in his life anymore, once couples get married they have their own lives to content to and begin to start a family and they sometimes see their parents less and less. the best thing for you to do is to sit down with her and let her know that you love her son and would never do anything to hurt him now or in the future, tell her that the lies she is saying are very hurtful to you and that just because he is getting married, it will not stop the special bond that they share as mother and son
2006-06-07 15:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers will always be like that, they think they know what is the best thing for their sons, yet they don't see that the best thing is right in front of their faces.
Why don't you speak to her and let her know your intentions, straight up! Listen I love your son, and I am not cheating on him, I don't know why you don't trust me but you are his mother and I respect you and maybe we could get to know eachother a little better. Besides if she is going to be your future mother-in-law you may as well start getting along from now!
Good luck!
2006-06-07 14:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie I am in the same situation. I finally had to stand up to her and pretty much let her know how things had to work. Your boyfriend also needs to stand up to her. My mother and sister -n- law all did the same thing, I was to do my wedding the what they wanted. and raise my children the way they did. Now my mother law calls when she is coming over, and she also knocks on the door instead of just walking in. And even better my sister-n-law no longer talks to me That was a bonus for me.
2006-06-07 14:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by emileerosebaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh good.. these mother& daughter -in-law relationships r so stressful.. I know what u mean.. but maybe u could explain it to ur bf that these conflicts r very common because the "mums" r so complicated and put their nose in everything.. they think their sons girlfriend or wife snatches their son from her... just explain these things to ur bf-good luck
2006-06-07 15:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lemi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are going to marry her son and she really should stop causing so much drama. tell her that you are good for her son and that she needs to see that. tell her that you would never do anything to hurt her son but when she tells him that you are cheating she is the one that is hurting him and for no reason. you don't want her to hate you so don't yell speak calmly she is going to be in your life for a long time so you should fix things./
2006-06-07 14:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, let me tell you..when it comes to mothers and their sons they are all very protective..some more than others. Shes trippin' dont even pay attention to any of it. If he REALLY loves you he will put you first. That may be his mother but he should stick up for you if he's really and man.
2006-06-07 14:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Baller B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her I know that's probably hard but your in a relationship with him not her . Is he her only child?
because if so that's probably why she doesn't like you because he's her baby but don't get to upset about it if you two are truly in love with each other you'll be OK.
I hope everything works out. :)
2006-06-07 14:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm...for starters which is which not witch (like a broomstick witch)....best thing ask your momma's boy boyfriend to have a heart to heart with her if he's serious about you....else....call her a f...ing ***** and kick the bf to the curb.
2006-06-07 14:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on the Maury show and get one of those lie detector tests. that will prove to her once and for all that u are not cheating.
2006-06-07 14:56:15 · answer #11 · answered by Joe'z 1st luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋