How do I stop loving him?

Question

I feel he has me right where he wants me, I am vunerable and I can't help it. He is everything I've ever wanted, from his intellgence to his fragance. What can I do to become mellow? (Everytime I see him or get an e-mail, phone call, I get so excited.)



I'm totally open for suggestions!

We are together, and he says, "he loves only me", but I just don't want to keeping loving someone then find out he's cheating, then I'll be extremely crushed because I'm so into him, It is unbelieveable how into this guy.

"I believe its to good to be true"

Answer 1

Sister, humans have not succeeded to stop loving, even if their heart was being broken day by day. If you haven't started the relationship yet, start it happily, in the way you'd like him to feel and don't be insecure, because insecurity is what prevents women from being happy, even if it happens that they find a guy who truly loves them (which is, without doubt, not he usual case).
The latter usually becomes mad in the attempt to prove he's not like ''all the others''.

Answer 2

Why do you want to become mellow? Enjoy it, memorize it, hold on to it! Falling in love is the best feeling in the world, just never stop "falling". Live for the moments of those feelings. It's ok to enjoy them, no matter what anyone tells you! You are happy, and even better in love! Go with it.....

Answer 3

Just stop seeing him, stop answering his calls.

You're the only one that can control you, so if you REALLY wanted to give him up...you'd just do it instead of asking us.

Sounds like you don't want to, sounds like your real question is "how do I change him and make him love me or turn him into the man I want?"

Silly girl. Move on. Whatever your problems are with this guy...he's totally replacable. Sounds like you need a good dose of self esteeme.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel!! My boyfriend who I recently took back one last time lol has done that to me every time. But what can I say im in love & I know its ment to be. But here is what I did last time it happened. Start trying to avoid him at all cost. Dont talk to him or see him. I know its hard but you can always send me an e-mail when you feel you need to talk & I will help you in anyway I can.
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Answer 5

Fill your life with many activity's, friends. Focus on yourself having a full-filling life without him. You will look more interesting in him. Nothing is more attractive to a man than an emotional healthy active, self-confident woman. See if that makes a difference. Focus on yourself, not him. I bet you will see more of him!

Answer 6

do sumthing to preoccupy ur time. say to urself "i am my own woman...i am independent...i do not need a man to complete me." now let that reverberate in ur head. lol. and then breath and tell urself it is just a man. the butterflies u feel in ur stomach will come and go but if this is the one...then ur chemistry will last forever and u should be jittery and happy whenever he calls. it's a natural response. don't be ashamed. embrace it if comes to u.

Answer 7

Enjoy the monent.Many of us,Male and Female are trying everyday to find that feeling for and with someone.

Answer 8

Why would you want to stop. Stay with it as long as you can. I will say don't be so disappointed when reality hits. Lust has a way of blinding you from the truth.

Answer 9

Try not to expect the world from him...I once felt that way about somebody and it's tough feeling that you have no control. Try to keep yourself busy! Live and learn...good luck.

Answer 10

Start trying to avoid as much contact as possible... do different things to keep your mind busy with anything else. It's not a one day to another thing, but it works... Good luck!!!