well i knew that i was that way when i was in the 9th grade but the only thing is, is i dont know if she will still love me or not.
2006-06-07 07:25:57 · 22 answers · asked by john_boi08 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know.............. you just need to do it. Whether mom likes it or not. Assuming you are an adult, you have to live your life for YOU, not good ole' mom. Hopefully she will understand, if not, be prepared and move on.................... it doesn't make you less of a person. A little sad, yes but not less of a person.
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2006-06-07 07:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a straight guy and have never experienced this situation.I do feel though that most (not all parents)love their children unconditionally. That means they love you no matter what you think feel or whether your gay or straight or an alien from another planet.After all they brought you into this world of their own flesh and blood. In a sense you are a part of them.I could imagine the shock if I had told my parents that I was gay.But I'm almost certain that they wouldn't stop loving me.I think the sooner the better to speak to her.One thing in life that is very important is that you be true to yourself. People who live in fear of what others think about them are only living a partial life and in the end they only have themselves to blame. Good luck and please be patient with your mom she might freak out at first but she will probably come around in time.
2006-06-07 07:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your Mom loves you unconditionally. She might be upset and even angry at first. Give her time to think it over and absorb the information that you have told her. I highly doubt she will stop loving you. Telling her is going to take a lot of courage. Having another person who knows you are gay, be w/you when you tell her, might make it easier on you. You might start out by saying that you have something that you need to tell her. Also say that you hope it won't effect her love that she has for you.
Good Luck!
2006-06-07 07:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make up a gay friend having the same problem if your mum says "he/she should just say it, a mom will always love their children" or some other positive statement come out and say well.. there is no friend.
if she makes a negative statement like... homosexuality is a sin that person will burn, or anything else that is obviously no good you can either not ever tell (i dont recommend) or say well i really hope you dont feel that way because I am gay.
Most mothers will love you despite a lifestyle they may not agree with
2006-06-07 07:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the only right decision of u to tell ur mom the truth. dont worry too much about it, she may actually be very understanding as she is the one who raised u up till today!
it should not be too hard, she is just ur mom after all! even if u r not very close with ur mother previously, if u talk to her about this then u guys can hav a nice long talk n become even closer.
if i had a son tell me he's gay, i would definitely support him all i can! makes no sense for me to stop loving him at all!
2006-06-08 21:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by ben g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hope that she would still love you. The best thing to do is sit down with her and in a calm and rational way tell her how you feel and what you think you are. She will probably be shocked and upset but hopefully once she absorbs the information she will accept you.
2006-06-07 07:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by hatingmsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is ur mom she maybe she might be a little mad at first it will go away it's best that u tell her now
my cousin she's bi and she finally fessed up to my aunt and uncle my uncle said that he didn't care she was his daughter and he loved the same as he did before my aunt was mad but got over in a week me and cousins knew already and we love her as we did before u guys are also ppl and ppl have rights so don't worry okay
if u need someone to talk e-mail me it may take a while to answer bask tho take care
2006-06-07 07:33:30 · answer #7 · answered by sportygurlyteadybeargurl_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom will still love you. Depending on her beliefs, they way she was raised, and how open minded she is, she may not like you very much anymore or she may just except it and continue you to love/like you the same. You need to Judge the situaion and if you think she may not react so well just be prepared. But you do need to tell her.
2006-06-07 07:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by ucfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your Mom the type that is Unapproachable? Is she racist towards Gays? ...all this matters if you need to talk to her about this...you know her better than anyone in here....The best thing is to sit her down and look her straight in the eye and just tell her. Its your life....you are the one that has to live with ur own skin...dont be afraid ...just tell her
2006-06-07 07:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by celine8388 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I told my mama that I'm bi and guess what she said??? go ahead, guess! "Felicia, You are NOT bisexual and you do NOT like women!" WTF?! So I told her "Mother, I like girls and guys. I like dick. I like pussy. I get off looking at Carmen electra AND Billie Joe Armstrong. I am bi!!" She still loves me and she understands that she can't change the way I am. I'm sure that if your mother loved you, she won't stop loving you just because you're gay. She might be in denial at first like my mom or she might kinda flip out but eventually she'll calm down and she will always love you no metter what. So don't worry about it and juts tell her. She is not going to stop loving you ok? ok.
Good luck doll!!
2006-06-07 07:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Juno. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋