I've been married for yearz and my love has faded for him since he has no respect for me because I married him when I was'nt even old enough to vote and now my eyes are fully open and he sez he misses the old me, the dumb me, and now I like to live my life as If I was'nt married, like when new people i've met I don't like to tell them that im married cuz I have grown alot of anger twards my hubby, There's more to the story but i would be here all day, So am I wrong or what??? I just think marrige bites!!
2006-06-07 07:01:22 · 17 answers · asked by Latinlicious r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you got married too young... because I'm sure at the time you thought you knew it all & would be happy & in love forever.
Apparently now you know you were wrong. You have to lie in the bed you made... or find a way out on your own, after all - thats how you got into it.
2006-06-07 07:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got married at a very young age when you should have probably been going to school, having fun with your friends, and dating more people to figure out what you wanted in a significant other. I don't think marriage bites, but what you describe does not sound like an ideal situation. Your teens and twenties are a time when you change A LOT and grow as a person. It is possible that you and your husband have grown apart. If he truly doesn't respect you, there is little hope. If you no longer love him, there is even less hope. I suggest getting some kind of counseling and trying to figure out what you loved about each other at the beginning. You are young enough at this point to move on if you are miserable, but I suggest giving the marriage some work before abandoning it. Marriage should be an equal partnership where each person gives the other the love and support they need. What you describe doesn't sound like a good marriage at all.
2006-06-07 07:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by stratagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what happens to most people when they marry young. Your life changes, you gain some experience and you either manage to grow together as a couple or you grow completely apart. You're not wrong, just ready to move forward while it sounds like your husband would like for you to stay the same as you were. Which we all know is an impossibility. You need to decide what's truly important to you and if you feel the two of you can reach more common ground and come back to a centered marriage. If not, maybe it's time for you to fly on your own. Good luck.
Oh, by the way, marriage itself doesn't bite. It's the relationship. ;-) Find the right person and marriage is awesome. I'm securely married to my second husband and count my blessings everyday.
2006-06-07 07:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 24 and also married and Im kind of in the same place as you. My husband is a good man and a good father but I feel like i got married to young and for the kids. When i go out i dont like to tell people that im married or have kids because im kind of embaressed. Here I am 24 and living the life of someone 10 years older! I feel your pain. Now I dont know if you have kids but if you dont then get out now. Unless you think its worth saving then get counsling. Life is too short to be miserable.
2006-06-07 07:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by lovelyone707 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 33 and have been married 3 times. I am working on my 3rd marriage right now.We have been together for 7 years but only married for 3. it is always a struggle for me because i had no good role models in the marriage department. You are not wrong but as people get older in age, they change and your partner changes as well. the thing to remember is you need to change together and you have to give the person room to change. Also, a person needs to have a life outside of marriage and they need time to figure out who they are. maybe as you and your husband have grown and changed it was not together and that's fine. Better to realize that now then 20 years down the road.
2006-06-07 07:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by bootsigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should have listened to your parents to late now you made your bed now lay in it
and just so you know my marriage is awesome i love my wife and she loves me
you are pert of the problem with America today when the going get tough you leave
I'm not necessarily talking t you I'm talking about all the answers your getting a lot of them say oh well just leave wtf doesn't marriage mean any thing any more what about till death do you part (i know some times there is domestic abuse then it should be ok to leave but most of the time people just get tired and want something new ) as i said im not talking to you only after all you have not given up yet your still married good luck to you and i hope you find some way to get trough this together
2006-06-07 07:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by rickherr10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate I was young when I first got married. like you I wasnt happy and also my husband was having a affair. So I divorced him. Now I am much happier without him. I would try marriage counseling if you wish to work out the marriage. You ahev to do what is best for you.
2006-06-07 07:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.yea I hate being married,so I have had no less than 400 affairs.My wife caught me many times.Now that I gave all that sex away I wish I had some money so I could buy it back and give it away again,damn I love sex even as an old man.I've got Viagra. maybe an affair is what you need
2006-06-07 07:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It obviously sounds like you dont want to be married anymore so perhaps you should think of getting a divorce. I think that it would make both of you all happier if you arent together if yu feel so strongly.
2006-06-07 07:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek help and counseling for this marriage. You chose him so you just may have to live with this choice. You are not dumb and he should respect you but remember you must respent him too!
2006-06-07 07:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋