My wife's best friend has always been a close friend of mine and we get on well. To some extend (but not too much) I have flirted with her and her with me. Last weekend she made an advance and initially I kissed her back before coming to my senses. She said it's can be our secret but that is not what I want. Now I don't know what to do, should I tell my wife? what should I say to my wifes best friend?
2006-06-07 06:41:24 · 19 answers · asked by Luckyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off, she is NOT your wifes best friend if she would make advances towards you. If I were the wife I would not want to know if it has all been stopped and I mean stopped. Do NOT ever be alone with this woman again. She (and your stupidness) could ruin your marriage. I've been in this situation with my spouse of 35 years. I was the stupid one and I too came to my senses. When he tried again I told him it never happened. He got the message. I vowed never to put myself in that situation again. I did NOT tell my husband and the other person eventually disappeared from our lives. I am glad I did not tell. There would have always been that doubt planted. I know I have behaved ever since but he might wonder. Should the best friend decide to tell then you have your problem to deal with. Avoid her unless wife is around. Some will say it was just a kiss but there is a seriousness here. Good luck
2006-06-07 07:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mache 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't mean to be so direct but - are you a moron? What you are doing already is cheating. Even if you don't think so - if you put yourself in the fire you might get burned - get what i am saying. I can't understand how you or your wife can trust each other - really! You have 2 choices stop what you are doing and get new friends or keep doing what your doing and you might as well do more because you are heading for divorce already.
2016-03-15 01:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say she was a 'friend' A true friend would not try and come between you and your wife. Stay away from her she is trouble if you deceive your wife she will eventually find out. How would you feel then? are you willing to risk it?
2006-06-07 06:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the best friend that you are married and what happened was an accident which will never happen again. If she tries something, tell your wife. I don't see any point in telling your wife anything now because it will only hurt her. Handle the situation and distance yourself from the friend.
2006-06-07 06:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would tell her friend that this is not what you want and that it will never happen again. Then tell your wife in a loving conversation what has happened. She may be angry at first, but both of you will appreciate the honesty in the long run. And, if her friend is a friend at all, she will back off and not cross that line again.
2006-06-07 06:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by lonelyfox1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you LOVE your wife and that you are not interested although you were flattered to start with, if she continues i would suggest you tell her in front of your wife that you have already told her your feelings and that enough is enough that way your wife will know that you are being honest with her
2006-06-07 09:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your wife, and what the two of you have right now----then make it 100% clear to this "best friend" that you are faithful to your wife. This woman needs to find someone of her own and YOU need to learn to stop flirting!
2006-06-07 06:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have kept it platonically friendly--no kissing, no flirting. Now you are in a jam--do you tell your wife and hurt her (or both of you lose the best friend)--OR do you not tell her, and she finds out from someone else (or by seeing something happening).
2006-06-07 06:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you value your wife, and what the two of you have right now----then make it 100% clear to this "best friend" that you are wanting to have a 3some with her and your wife.
2006-06-07 06:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is bad news! But The Boot understands the problem well and is willing to HELP! Ship the naughty little thing over here to Heidelberg and I will give her a job in my lumber business...
2006-06-07 06:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋