2006-06-07 06:27:53 · 30 answers · asked by dancerchick5287 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how old should you be too? ive been with one person i thought i could be with but it didntwork out. this guy is different so i am nervous bc of the past but could definetly see my self w/ him at the same time.
2006-06-07 06:37:22 · update #1
There is no set time to become engaged, nor is there an age that determines it is right or wrong. You can be with someone for years and then finally get engaged and realize that he is not the right one for you. On the other hand you can be with someone for 3 months and KNOW that he is the right one.
My feeling is that no matter how long or how little you are with someone, there is never any guarantee that they are right for you. You can know know someone for yrs. or for months and never really know someone. You go with your gut instincts, and hope that everything will turn out ok.
2006-06-21 04:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-07 13:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking about this topic already. It means you are ready to be engaged. Deep down you know the answer. If your partner feels the same way you do then time doesn't matter. After I ended a 3yr relationship and was engaged to this person I know what you mean. four months latter I meet this guy in about a moth we were dating. 3months latter We both knew we had never felt this way about anyone else. We knew we wanted to get married, we announced and made it formal four months latter. nine months latter got married. Have been happily married for almost 10yrs with 3 children. everything happen so fast. just pay attention to your heart.
2006-06-21 03:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Angie29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read a book by a psychologist when I was in college who recommend 2 years. They said that most people can't hide emotional health problems or other personal problems for that long, so you should have a pretty good idea of what the person is really like after 2 years--less surprises when you get married and less chance of divorce. (Yet my parents were engage after 8 weeks--but they were introduced by a mutual friend who had known them both for years).
2006-06-07 13:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by deib13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did. Date for six months, marry a year later, wait nine years to have kids (just to make sure the marriage is solid before bringing children into the picture), forgive your spouse for her one infidelity ( at least you think it was only one), and then divorce after fourteen years of marriage.
What am I getting at?
There are no guarantees that a marriage will work out. You have to trust and listen to both your heart and your head.
No regrets here. I have two awesome kids to make it all worth while. :o)
2006-06-21 12:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Motorhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set answer, but think about this. The decision to marry someone is for LIFE, or should be. So you wait until you are sure you can live with this person forever. I also think you need to LIVE with them before you get married. You just don't find out all the details until you live with them. Take the time to make an informed decision....then be happy.
2006-06-19 11:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ideal time is 1 until 2 years. and from engagement to married is 6 months to 1 year.
me and my hubby known each other since 1993. being a couple from 2000 and getting married in 2003. Now we both happy with our marriage that we already known our weakness and strong that we love our selves just the way we are. and can solve all in marriage problem with open minded. No surprises after marriage that we already known each other well. Many couple get many surprise with their couple habit, attitude,..etc that they did not know before..some of them hide and show up after marriage.
2006-06-21 04:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Fie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee and me were only dating for a year before we got engaged. If you really love this person it should not matter how long you and him have been dating because the only thing that should matter is that you really truly love one another and also that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person.
2006-06-07 13:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by heavenlildevil78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm engaged now and have been with my fiance 2 years in august. the wedding si set for next year.
Whenever you feel its rigth.
We know one couple who has been happily nmarried for 10 years and got married 3 months into the relationship.
Good Luck
2006-06-07 13:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHILE IT'S A GOOD THING TO HOLD ONTO LESSONS YOU'VE LEARNED IN THE PAST, IT'S NOT GOOD TO LIVE IN THE PAST SWEETIE. I SOMETIMES CATCH MYSELF AND HAVE TO REMIND MYSELF THIS IS NOW, THAT WAS THEN. BUT YOU MUST NEVER FORGET PAST HURTS AND PAST MISTAKES, THAT'S HOW WE LEARN TO NOT FALL IN THE SAME HOLE YOU KNOW.
IT REALLY ALL DEPENDS ON THE PEOPLE AND THE SITUATION. ME I THINK I WAS ENGAGED AFTER LIKE FIVE MONTHS. HELL MAYBE LESS. IT DIDN'T WORK OUT THO. THAT'S LIFE. WE LIVE AND LEARN AND WE MOVE ON. IF YOU CAN SEE YOURSELF BY THIS MAN'S SIDE THEN GO FOR IT. GET ENGAGED. MAKE IT A LONG ENGAGEMENT. GET TO KNOW HIM INSIDE AND OUT. THEN YOU MAKE YOUR FINAL DECISION.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR NEW MAN. FUTURE FIANCE? TAKE CARE.
2006-06-21 02:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋